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View Poll Results: Keeping or Not Keeping maiden name
I kept (or would keep) my maiden name after marrying 38 42.22%
I took/would take my husband's surname, and did (or would) retain it after a divorce 23 25.56%
I did/would take my husband's surname, but did (or would) revert to my maiden name after a divorce 29 32.22%
Voters: 90. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 05-19-2010, 03:06 AM
 
Location: Brisbane
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My wife was very keen to change both her frist and last name after we were married last year. I think due to the fact that her origional first name is very hard to pronounce for a native english speaker and as a sign of unity.

Interestingly though, in the culture she grew up in it is not common for a wife to change their name when married.
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Old 05-19-2010, 03:13 AM
 
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Interestingly though, in the culture she grew up in it is not common for a wife to change their name when married.
Same here in Spain. The name you are given at birth is YOUR name and you will never change it (unless, of course, you want to take the legal procedures to change it). I've always found weird that in some cultures you have to change your name depending on who you are involved with.
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Old 05-19-2010, 05:43 AM
 
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Old 05-24-2010, 04:58 AM
 
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Default Taking husband's family name

A woman can build up her house much better if she remains as member of her husband's family, and not as a member of her father's family. After marriage she attains the membership of her husband's family. So it is very sensible that woman should carry her husband's last name. It is very sensible that all the members of a family to have same last name.
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Old 05-24-2010, 05:49 AM
 
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I hyphenated my name and wish I hadn't. I guess it felt strange to me to have someone else's name, like I was losing a part of myself. Now 14 years later I wish I would have just taken my husband's last name and been done with it. Doctor offices never know which name to file me under, I have had insurance goof ups, I have had mail and other things show up with the names switched around, I have had people call my husband Mr. (insert my last name here) which does not go over well with him, sometimes employers skimp out and only use one name which gets them in trouble with the IRS. The list goes on. I thought about changing it but its been this way for the past 14 yrs. It would probably cause more problems.
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Old 05-24-2010, 07:08 AM
 
Location: Hawaii
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I hyphenated it. The two names are relatively short and sound good together. I probably wouldn't have if my last name was McGillenhugh and his was Wolfehausenberger! I did it because my grandma and mom both have my maiden last name and after my mom's divorce she did a lot of work to get her maiden name back. I guess for that reason I associate it with a strong independent woman

It seems like a lot of women, instead of doing a hyphenated last name, are making thier maiden last name thier middle name and taking thier husband's name as thier last name. I like my middle name and I feel like a person's middle name is rarely used, so I wouldn't feel like I was truly keeping my maiden last name, that's why I didn't do it that way.

btw I got a lot of crap from my husband's best friend at the time for not just "sucking it up" and taking his name and dropping mine.

I've never had a problem with people getting my last name wrong, not knowing what to call me, or anything serious. The worst that ever happens is when papers are in alphabetical order, half the time I'm under T, and half the time I'm under H. So I suppose that's a tiny hassle. *shrug*
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Old 05-24-2010, 07:21 AM
 
Location: Hawaii
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My wife was very keen to change both her frist and last name after we were married last year. I think due to the fact that her origional first name is very hard to pronounce for a native english speaker and as a sign of unity.

Interestingly though, in the culture she grew up in it is not common for a wife to change their name when married.
Did she change her first name to something completely different or just change it slightly or change the spelling to be easier to pronounce? Just curious.
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Old 05-24-2010, 07:28 AM
 
Location: Hawaii
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Jane72 I'm probably one of the nicest and kind guys you'd ever want to meet, honestly. Me saying that about taking my name was just a gut thing. If a woman didn't want to take my name, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. I just feel like sometimes we should follow traditions, not a slam to women just a tradition.
He did admit he had no real reason. Cut him some slack.
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