Keeping/not keeping maiden name after marriage (boyfriend, young, separated)

[Huckleberry3911948]

well lets see if you keep your name your accounts all your old friends, inc male as long as you dont sleep them, your own office and living space, at some point you should be asking why is marriage so important to me. why am i doing this?

[Braunwyn]

Originally Posted by Huckleberry3911948

well lets see if you keep your name your accounts all your old friends, inc male as long as you dont sleep them, your own office and living space, at some point you should be asking why is marriage so important to me. why am i doing this?

Maybe I'm not understanding you here. Marriage is not synonymous with losing indivudality, independence and one's own life. Well, not for everyone at least.

[ExPit]

I encouraged my wife to keep her nice 'n easy maiden name. but she insisted on adopting my ethnic, longer than your forearm surname. Just spelling it on the phone, you need to take a break between syllables.

[nebulous1]

What really is annoying are the ones who hyphenate their maiden and married names. Sometimes, there are really bad combos and they sound stupid or are really long like

Mary Craven-Meatloaf

So how do you put their last name in alphabetical order? What is their true legal last name?
What if they remarry again, do they wind up as

Mary Craven-Meatloaf-Moore

I think it just looks dumb, and it's my opinion.

[JustJulia]

Originally Posted by nebulous1

What really is annoying are the ones who hyphenate their maiden and married names. Sometimes, there are really bad combos and they sound stupid or are really long like

Mary Craven-Meatloaf

So how do you put their last name in alphabetical order? What is their true legal last name?
What if they remarry again, do they wind up as

Mary Craven-Meatloaf-Moore

I think it just looks dumb, and it's my opinion.

No, no, Craven-Moore-Meatloaf would be AWESOME. I love it!

A teacher at one of my kids' schools is Mrs. Brotherly-Lamb.

[Chowhound]

Originally Posted by JustJulia

No, no, Craven-Moore-Meatloaf would be AWESOME. I love it!

A teacher at one of my kids' schools is Mrs. Brotherly-Lamb.

WTH,

LOL at Mrs. Brotherly-Lamb.

[Niftybergin]

I changed my name (to my husband's) when I married, but I chose to keep his name after the divorce. It didn't have anything to do with him -- or children, since we don't have kids. But the whole process of changing my name the first time had been a giant PITA. It's not so much the hassle with all the "official" places like the DMV and the Social Security office. But my vendors were so slack about making the chang, and this caused all sorts of headaches for me. So when I divorced, I decided to just keep his name and forego all that hassle.

[davey123]

Originally Posted by DaBeez

I told my wife that when we got married she will HAVE to take my name. No if's, and's or but's about it.

I think nowadays, most women change their names to their husbands names. That is, unless youre a black chick in the WNBA. Its like they ALL have hyphenated names. Maybe its a cultural thing with them? Even teachers and professors I had in school almost all had hyphenated last names.

There are several female professors who keep their maiden names (without hyphenating it). It really makes sense if they have been established under that name. As someone mentioned, there are professional and personal reasons why a woman elects to keep her maiden name. I suspect, however, that this trend is more common among professional women. And, of course, that's fine.

[jeninmt]

I took my ex-husband's surname and kept it after we divorced. We had a child together, so I did it for her. I am remarried now with three children with my current husband and I did not take his name. I still wanted my oldest DD to have that connection with me, and until we had children together, I never thought of it. I may petition to have it hyphenated.

[Secret Samadhi]

I'd take my husband's name, but go back to my own if we were to divorce.