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View Poll Results: Keeping or Not Keeping maiden name
I kept (or would keep) my maiden name after marrying 38 42.22%
I took/would take my husband's surname, and did (or would) retain it after a divorce 23 25.56%
I did/would take my husband's surname, but did (or would) revert to my maiden name after a divorce 29 32.22%
Voters: 90. You may not vote on this poll

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Old 09-26-2009, 04:21 PM
 
Location: Bon Temps
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Got married, changed it... got divorced, changed it back... got married changed it again.
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Old 09-26-2009, 06:42 PM
 
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I love my last name. I am also the last of the bloodline under my last name, so I wouldn't change it. I do not plan on having kids, so I guess it dies with me.
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Old 09-26-2009, 07:01 PM
 
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Sometimes I can understand it.......

When Mary married Charles Lamb, she kept her own name.

Sometimes I wonder.......

I have known a woman for 20 years and during that time, she has used 3 last names - one more than once. During that time, she was married and divorced twice but never took either husband's name.

I finally got the courage to ask. One was her father's (who died young), one was her step fathers and now she is using her mother's maiden name, for at least the second time.

Perhaps this is a way to avoid paying tickets or lose your creditors.
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Old 09-26-2009, 08:16 PM
 
Location: NoVa
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Right now I am working on a divorce. I have a hyphenated last name and whenever the divorce is final I will go back to my maiden name.
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Old 10-02-2009, 07:36 PM
 
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I've been married for about 8 years to a woman who told me in no uncertain terms when we were engaged that she would keep her name as is. Our children have my last name, but her justification was that she liked her name, had history with it, and didn't think it made sense to change it. I understand that perspective, it is rational.
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Old 10-02-2009, 07:50 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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As much as I hated to, I kept my husband's surname because I didn't want it different from our daughter's.

However, when I remarried 13 years later I took my next husband's name. I never thought it was a big deal to keep a maiden name, or hyphenate, or whatever.
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Old 12-27-2009, 07:52 PM
 
Location: Titusville, Florida
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Just wondering what the general trend is nowadays....
My mother changed her middle name to her maiden name.
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Old 12-27-2009, 08:12 PM
 
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I'm not married but when I get there I plan on keeping my name and hyphening his.
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Old 12-28-2009, 08:29 AM
 
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I have decided to take my husband's name. Well, I'm going to hypenate it with my current name. This is a gift for him, with a component of sacrifice on my part. Given recent events in our lives, and how he has carried me through it, I feel compelled to offer up that part of my identity.
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Old 12-28-2009, 11:55 AM
 
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First marriage - hyphenated my last name with his. It was a royal pain in the butt.

After about 10 years I just used his last name - it was what ended up happening a lot of the time anyways.

Second marriage, I took his last name. I like it. Having the same name just feels more "unified" to me.
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