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Our team at work got a new member about two months ago. The thing is, she is hot! And, while this may sound bad, her prettiness distracts me at work.
Now, I know I'm totally at fault here. I should control myself and knuckle down, since i'm paid to work and not be attracted to women. But my issue here is how to wean myself off of this? Should i minimise contact with her (which may prove not viable in the long-run since we're team members)? Or should i just get over it?
Our team at work got a new member about two months ago. The thing is, she is hot! And, while this may sound bad, her prettiness distracts me at work.
Now, I know I'm totally at fault here. I should control myself and knuckle down, since i'm paid to work and not be attracted to women. But my issue here is how to wean myself off of this? Should i minimise contact with her (which may prove not viable in the long-run since we're team members)? Or should i just get over it?
While there are obvious lines, and the saying goes don't **** where you eat and such, some of the best relationships come from people you work with as you actually get to know them.
My personal opinion would be if it's more than strictly superficial, see if you can casually get her to go out with other co-workers and make subtle hints, body-language and the like to see if she has an interest. Talk with her in a 1 on 1 around others setting when feasible, those kinds of things. No need to go direct in that situation, but you can "feel it out" so to speak.
If it's just because she's a 10 on your "My god! If those hips had oil on them I'd love to slip-slide the day away" factor, then ya, you should just get over it.
I am assuming in this that both you and her are single.
Get used to it, and focus on doing your job. You're gonna be surrounded by unavailable hot women the rest of your life. I'm quite certain that she is used to guys' eyes glazing over when she walks by. That's just the nature of the beast.
Yep, it's the same as if you date a beautiful woman. After awhile, you get used to it. It's nice to look at a beautiful person but, if that's their only good quality, they won't last long. Treat all coworkers the same, regardless of gender. It's the ethical thing to do, and it's the law. Enjoy the view from a distance.
Yep, it's the same as if you date a beautiful woman. After awhile, you get used to it. It's nice to look at a beautiful person but, if that's their only good quality, they won't last long. Treat all coworkers the same, regardless of gender. It's the ethical thing to do, and it's the law. Enjoy the view from a distance.
*sigh*
When is it unethical/unlawful to have an attraction to a co-worker and bring this to light to the other person in a way that isn't demeaning? Aside from the obvious of miltary non-similarly ranked individuals. Some people seem to equate respect with being cold. Or sexual harassment with asking a co-worker out even indirectly.
When is it unethical/unlawful to have an attraction to a co-worker and bring this to light to the other person in a way that isn't demeaning? Aside from the obvious of miltary non-similarly ranked individuals. Some people seem to equate respect with being cold. Or sexual harassment with asking a co-worker out even indirectly.
One thing that helped me a lot: (kind of rude but it worked for me): Imagine her farting. A lot. All the time. ...and chewing tobbacco.
That usually overcame it for me...even if it took a week or two.
Yep, it's the same as if you date a beautiful woman. After awhile, you get used to it. It's nice to look at a beautiful person but, if that's their only good quality, they won't last long. Treat all coworkers the same, regardless of gender. It's the ethical thing to do, and it's the law. Enjoy the view from a distance.
I treat all persons in my department the same, it's dumb to ruffle up people you work with.
But i reckon i should just get over it. I think dating her is out of the question, given we're in the same team. What if we had a fight at home? it would spill into the team, wouldn't it?
I think a good course of action is to avert my gaze when she is in my presence, and focus on my work.
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Get used to it, and focus on doing your job. You're gonna be surrounded by unavailable hot women the rest of your life. I'm quite certain that she is used to guys' eyes glazing over when she walks by. That's just the nature of the beast.
I think dating her is out of the question, given we're in the same team. What if we had a fight at home? it would spill into the team, wouldn't it?
If you believe it would interfere on some level with your work, of course you shouldn't in that case. That's obviously unprofessional, but I'd hardly equate that with never thinking you can have an attraction to someone at work, and find some means to pursue it without being unprofessional in doing so. Or to perceive them differently. But it's subjective in my view.
Beautiful women are everywhere, you need to learn self control. Remember the old saying..."No matter how hot she is, somewhere out there is a guy who is tired of her sh*t." Beauty is skin deep and in time fades, admire from a distance, but focus on your work.
You have to think of her as a completely non-sexual creature.
Don't date her, worst mistake you'll ever make.
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