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OK, got another one for you folks. Have you ever 'commanded' (not quite the right word, but close enough) someone to approach you?
What I mean is, you catch someone's eye and they seem interested in you. You're feeling supremely confident (cocky even) and instead of approaching them you tell them to come to you by either:
1) Literally curling your finger.
2) A head nod to suggest the two of you meet at a neutral location roughly half of the distance between where you're currently standing.
This particular scenario is obviously meant for some type of gathering like a party, club, bar, etc.
I know from my experience that it works very well when I'm confident and clearly communicate with my eyes and expression that the signal is meant in a playful, rather than demanding way. In fact I don't think I can understate just how important your confidence level is to pull this off because it's a huge risk, if you don't know exactly how to present yourself, it could very easily be mistaken for something very demeaning.
I haven't done this that many times but when I did, wow... it's hard to describe just how gratifying those few seconds are as a beautiful woman walks up to you with the look of eager anticipation that she's about to meet the most confident man in the room.
Yeah, once, but I used my middle finger...dat b***! Sorry, couldn't resist..
Twice sofar, works, but by the time you usually do that you already know short of hurling your shoe at her full force from across the room that she's into you more than Pee-wee Herman at a porn convention.
Unless there was tremendous eye contact and lots of really obvious head-turning interest, nah. Generally, that would come across as cocky, not confident. More of a turn-off than a turn-on to me.
Unless there was tremendous eye contact and lots of really obvious head-turning interest, nah. Generally, that would come across as cocky, not confident. More of a turn-off than a turn-on to me.
Yep, by that time it's been a minute or two of solid flirting from afar, otherwise I couldn't see it happening.
Maybe that would work on some women without it, but I doubt it for the majority. It's a double-standard I know, but even if there's that, if a woman did it to me, it's an instant red flag.
Unless there was tremendous eye contact and lots of really obvious head-turning interest, nah. Generally, that would come across as cocky, not confident. More of a turn-off than a turn-on to me.
No question it's a risky move. I usually do it only if I get the feeling that the girl wants to approach me but is hesitant to do so. In those cases they were relieved that I invited them over and it was a nice start to pleasant conversations.
I've probably been lucky that the girls didn't take it the wrong way and so far I haven't had to endure the embarrassment of the girl refusing either...won't it be fun when my luck runs out?
No question it's a risky move. I usually do it only if I get the feeling that the girl wants to approach me but is hesitant to do so. In those cases they were relieved that I invited them over and it was a nice start to pleasant conversations.
I've probably been lucky that the girls didn't take it the wrong way and so far I haven't had to endure the embarrassment of the girl refusing either...won't it be fun when my luck runs out?
Well, you are obviously waiting for the right moment, with the right girls, so hopefully you'll never find out!
Ew. I can't help but think that anybody who'd actually try this in a non-ironic manner would come off as incredibly cheesy.
Good call! That's what I was getting at when said "playful". You want to come across as obvious so they don't take it too seriously. That way they'll see it as a playful invite instead of an arrogant demand.
Another way to do it would be to mouth the words "You, come here." While you point at them and then signal them over. Then follow it up with a laugh like you're teasing them so you come across as only half serious (yes you want them to come over, but no you aren't so full of yourself to think they should comply).
Didn't seem to be an issue with a playful smirk on my face the 2 times I have done it. But as I said, as far as signals go, as far as I could tell at the time the only way they could have shown more interest would be to flash ta-ta's by that point.
That happens all the time but I don't find it a good indicator of interest, am I missing something??
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