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I don't think I have ever been too tired to play with someone I actually wanted. But I can't dismiss the tired thing. It is a valid reason in some cases. I won't say they're all lying.
I do call bullsh*t on those granny bloomer, mud mask wearing, frizzy haired, uptight, dead-bed weights who are basically gift wrapping their hubbies for someone else's enjoyment.
I don't think I have ever been too tired to play with someone I actually wanted. But I can't dismiss the tired thing. It is a valid reason in some cases. I won't say they're all lying.
I do call bullsh*t on those granny bloomer, mud mask wearing, frizzy haired, uptight, dead-bed weights who are basically gift wrapping their hubbies for someone else's enjoyment.
REP!
Being tired from time to time is one thing, tired all the time is another.
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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I didn't want to hijack another thread but the excuse, "I have kids to take care of all day...I'm too tired"....is just BS to me. I raised kids too and even when I was tired, I made time for my husband. The thing is, the more you do, the more you want to. It's the greatest stress reliever ever.
Anyone else not buy the "....too tired because...." bit?
Not even knowing you whatsoever I have just found a new love for you...
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate
I don't think I have ever been too tired to play with someone I actually wanted. But I can't dismiss the tired thing. It is a valid reason in some cases. I won't say they're all lying.
I do call bullsh*t on those granny bloomer, mud mask wearing, frizzy haired, uptight, dead-bed weights who are basically gift wrapping their hubbies for someone else's enjoyment.
Tried to rep ya but wouldn't allow me so I just jumped up n down and shouted out loud with excitement for you...
In an ideal world, the consideration regarding the "tired" issue should go both ways.
The way my relationship is at the moment, I couldn't imagine having sex on Friday nights. Why, because I'm too tired. Waking up at 4:30, full day of work, 2 1/2 to 3 hour drive, dinner (that he has ready when I get there, btw), and I'm out. Even though he's more of a "morning person" when it comes to sex, he has brought this issue up several times. I think he's finally come to realize that this has nothing to do with how I feel about him. It has been tough at times though, as I've felt somewhat guilty that I simply don't have the stamina that I used to have.
Do I give what I can? I sure do. And, I believe that's what makes the difference. After almost two years of commuting on weekends and this "Friday night no-sex thing", he's realized that this simply is not an excuse to not be intimate.
Sometimes being too tired means you're just too tired to have sex with him/her. When you are no longer turned on by your SO you may feel unmotivated or tired, but if Jessica Alba suddenly fell into their lap they wouldn't be so "tired" after all. I've used the tired excuse in the past, and on a handful of occasions it was legit, I really was exhausted from a long day at work or lack of sleep. A women is entitled to be too tired for sex from time to time, we're all human and it happens. It's not written anywhere that we have to be constantly charged and ready to go at a moment's notice. If it happens for frequently then it's time for both parties to talk it out and get down to the root of the issue.
I would just add that if you're genuinely too tired from commuting, working fulltime, cleaning, cooking, taking care of kids, etc. then you need to communicate that and work out a solution right away instead of it becoming an ongoing problem. Maybe you hire someone to clean once every two weeks, or get a babysitter or whatever. But I think the key is communication.
The vast majority of people simply work too much so they can buy things they don't need and then wonder why everything else in their life falls apart, or they 'grow' apart from their partner, or their love 'dies'.
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but that goes both ways
