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You assume it affects their character. Some of the worst serial killers are very affable and approachable...and everyone says, "He was such a nice boy!"
And this is something far below serial murder on any sort of scale.
In fact, the comparison is closer to my thing with tattoos. I don't know...until I do. In the meantime, I'd have been dating someone I don't approve of.
Yes, something someone does every day that affects their state of mind certainly does affect their character. And find me a daily pothead who wants to date someone who doesn't approve of their habit and is willing to hide it for that purpose. They'll usually tell you sooner rather than later because potheads want to be in compatible relationships too.
In fact, the comparison is closer to my thing with tattoos. I don't know...until I do. In the meantime, I'd have been dating someone I don't approve of.
If it's that important to you, why not just ask? Do you seriously just jump into relationships totally blind?
Why should I ask? If I'm offended, I can always leave. I've been lucky thus far--only one of the women who have approached me for a relationship has had a tattoo, and left when asked.
If it's that important to you, why not just ask? Do you seriously just jump into relationships totally blind?
Why shouldn't I? I have long periods of being single between relationships, so when I'm approached about one, I initially accept. During the dating process, that's when you get the chance to learn whether or not you want to be with the person.
Like Violett said -- to stop problems before they start. But it seems you'd rather wait until that moment right before intimacy, as you said in another post, to find out that there's a dealbreaker? I don't know about you, but I prefer to know that before we're naked rather than after.
It also seems we have very different ideas about sorting out dealbreakers before versus after one starts dating. IMO doing it beforehand is more apt to prevent unnecessary heartbreak.
Before intimacy can mean a lot of things. I can have dinner with someone that has an STD, and it won't matter. But sex is a totally different story. Of course, that doesn't happen on the first or second date, it doesn't happen for a few weeks, if ever.
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