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Ok either a lot of women fake it or I am really good in bed because every girl I have slept with has "had an O". but the modest side of me thinks its got to be faking (and through later discussion I know 1 was def faking).
I discussed it with my friends and we have mixed results. One of my friends thinks orgasms are like this massive explosion in the girl and he said hes only made a girl O twice. My other friend says he makes girls O a lot and its common for them to have multiples. I am on the side with the latter friend, but I have a sneaking suspicion they may have been fakes. Does it just depend on the woman? Are some women capable of having multiples after a few minutes or are they all just faking?
My thoughts exactly! I've said that to him but I don't know if (some?) men just don't get that or what. Anyone who thinks sex without the 'O' is like a sandwich without bread doesn't have a clue and is probably a passionless sort of lover--I'm probably being too generous with the word lover.
I've never had the displeasure of faked "O's", I just don't fully understand the concept.
Now, I'm more of a tab A into slot B then most men I know, but if your really having an off day, or otherwise simply not as into it, she can initiate "other" things to maintain the bond and/or provide release for the guy. It is kind of regarded as part of your manliness in society that you can always get her off regardless, but that's not reality, neither is me getting off each time it happens, which frankly is more of the mentality behind it as a guy.
Had 'em have more than they could count in a couple of hours, other times get 1 or 2, and some nights they just had some crap on their minds or otherwise preoccupied with something troubling to them that inhibited it. It's going to happen. Usually they'd after awhile "adjust position", say that felt great but let me play with you for a bit. The hint was there.
Perhaps it's just me, but I'm confident enough in my bits and prowess that it really isn't that big a deal that once in awhile this is going to happen. And nothing faked has to take place.
While I realize it helps maintain the bond and solidifies one, that does not really enter into the forethought's of any guy I know, he's after the 'O'. The foreplay, after-play, and how affectionate I am when NOT having sex is far more of a bonding indicator from the average guy IMO.
I discussed it with my friends and we have mixed results. One of my friends thinks orgasms are like this massive explosion in the girl and he said hes only made a girl O twice. My other friend says he makes girls O a lot and its common for them to have multiples. I am on the side with the latter friend, but I have a sneaking suspicion they may have been fakes. Does it just depend on the woman? Are some women capable of having multiples after a few minutes or are they all just faking?
Depends on the woman. Just because you 'think' she's faking, I wouldn't assume there, I'd broach the subject in an adult manner with her.
90% of sex is in the mind. Women don't have the same exact design as men, and each woman's parts that constitute arousal are not always the same, and certainly not all at the same level.
Some can not achieve orgasm through any other means than direct clitoral stimulation, others can have multiple from hitting their g-spot with enough building speed behind it. Others achieve it through a combination of g and clitoral when in certain positions more than others. The "new and exciting" part plays a pretty massive role on that one as well from my experience. Far more difficult to get her to have a major amount of multiple ones once the "oh I want this guy badly" part dies down once you're dating for awhile. Much like a Christmas gift you've been looking forward to for 2 months, building excitement, then you either still love playing with it half as much 6 months down the road as you did when you first got it, or it was totally based on novelty from the start and it's now in the garbage dump.
I've never faked it...ever. But asking a man to "hurry up" is a separate issue. Every once in a while, no matter how great it is, it just hurts.
That kind of touches on the same thing. I have that happen a lot, if it's just pain, don't do it. There are other methods if your still willing to 'help out' as it were. THAT one I've noticed, you wanna talk about FAST losing an erection, let me go to it on you til I see the pain face. That one I've gotten from the women I've dated, and discussed that one in short order with who I was dating at the time. I want to get off obviously, but creating pain is not what I'm after.
I'm pretty sure no one has ever faked it on me but then again, I haven't had a lot of partners.
Dang, it's pretty sad actually because they are only cheating themself. If it takes "the full service" to make her happy...then that's what she is going to get. I'd rather be told than have someone not happy with the situation.
Okay, no one fakes it. Or "only faked it once". Or "we sit down and talkabout it, then everything's fine". OH PLEASE! When you are in a committed relationship especially a long-term relationship, sometime there's good sex, sometime bad sex. There's mind-blowing, toe curling sex and there's quickie sex. Sometime you just "do it" or sometime you "fake it". There's a lot of things I would try just for him. Seeing him enjoy it makes me enjoy it. There's a lot of things he will try for me where the enjoyment is seeing me fulfilled. It's all a mind thing. Especially for women. When you experiment or even role play you are stepping out on new territory so you don't know what to expect STOP TAKING THINGS SO SERIUOSLY! As long as there's understanding, enjoyment, and a little mystery your sex life will be all good.
Okay, no one fakes it. Or "only faked it once". Or "we sit down and talkabout it, then everything's fine". OH PLEASE! When you are in a committed relationship especially a long-term relationship, sometime there's good sex, sometime bad sex. There's mind-blowing, toe curling sex and there's quickie sex. Sometime you just "do it" or sometime you "fake it". There's a lot of things I would try just for him. Seeing him enjoy it makes me enjoy it. There's a lot of things he will try for me where the enjoyment is seeing me fulfilled. It's all a mind thing. Especially for women. When you experiment or even role play you are stepping out on new territory so you don't know what to expect STOP TAKING THINGS SO SERIUOSLY! As long as there's understanding, enjoyment, and a little mystery your sex life will be all good.
Yeah, when my gf fakes it how am I to know which of the 10 times it was?
It all depends on what you hope to accomplish. You can't be 100% certain she is faking it, so if she says she isn't, where do you go from there? Either way, I think she would be more self-conscious and less likely to have any sex with you after that. Keep in mind too that for a lot (not all but a lot) of women, true orgasms are not the thrashing around, screaming your head off type that are depicted in porn movies. That's all done for the audience. But I know a lot of women who feel their husbands and boyfriends expect that because they believe that's the way a real orgasm is.
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THAT one I've noticed, you wanna talk about FAST losing an erection, let me go to it on you til I see the pain face. That one I've gotten from the women I've dated, and discussed that one in short order with who I was dating at the time. I want to get off obviously, but creating pain is not what I'm after.
Oh PLEASE!
OH PLEASE! When you are in a committed relationship especially a long-term relationship, sometime there's good sex, sometime bad sex. There's mind-blowing, toe curling sex and there's quickie sex. Sometime you just "do it" or sometime you "fake it". There's a lot of things I would try just for him. Seeing him enjoy it makes me enjoy it. There's a lot of things he will try for me where the enjoyment is seeing me fulfilled. It's all a mind thing. Especially for women. When you experiment or even role play you are stepping out on new territory so you don't know what to expect STOP TAKING THINGS SO SERIUOSLY! As long as there's understanding, enjoyment, and a little mystery your sex life will be all good.
