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Old 06-01-2009, 05:07 AM
 
Location: Milwaukee
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What do you do if you're in a relationship with a man and you don't really know if he truly loves you? One day you guys are floating on the clouds and the next he's trying to find the next best thing. His actions show both sides. One personality he's deeply in love. His other personality he's outta love and can't stand you. Oh yeah and it's more than just a relationship.....it's a marriage.
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Old 06-01-2009, 05:09 AM
 
Location: I never said I was perfect so no refunds here sorry!
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Wow! I am somewhat confused here......is ths something new in his personality or what?
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Old 06-01-2009, 05:09 AM
 
Location: Delaware...Oi
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What do you do if you're in a relationship with a man and you don't really know if he truly loves you? One day you guys are floating on the clouds and the next he's trying to find the next best thing. His actions show both sides. One personality he's deeply in love. His other personality he's outta love and can't stand you. Oh yeah and it's more than just a relationship.....it's a marriage.
You usually....oh, I dunno....talk to the other person about it maybe?
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Old 06-01-2009, 05:16 AM
 
Location: Connecticut
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Default Loves me loves me not....

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What do you do if you're in a relationship with a man and you don't really know if he truly loves you? One day you guys are floating on the clouds and the next he's trying to find the next best thing. His actions show both sides. One personality he's deeply in love. His other personality he's outta love and can't stand you. Oh yeah and it's more than just a relationship.....it's a marriage.
Sounds to me that this guy is unsure of his marriage and relationship with you. I would ask him outright what his problem is and then suggest you go to a marriage counselor. How long were you with him prior to marriage? Has he ever cheated on you with other women prior to marriage? Does he have someone on the hook now and he is nice to you and all lovey dovey so you won't suspect? Could be lots of reasons for his dual personality but unless you ask him and suggest counseling, you will never know for sure.

I personally wouldn't be able to stay in a marriage that shows two sides like this...men and women both can have their moments where they both can act miserable and like they don't care. The part of this that bothers me is that you say he "looks for the next best thing"...not good!! My husband and I have our moments but if he "looked for the next best thing" he would be looking permanently OUT of our home and on his own time, not mine. Good Luck
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Old 06-01-2009, 06:16 AM
 
Location: Tennessee
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You should not have to question his love for you, especially if its a marriage. Time for the ol` heart to heart!
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Old 06-01-2009, 11:33 PM
 
Location: Between a rock and a hard place.
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What do you do if you're in a relationship with a man and you don't really know if he truly loves you? One day you guys are floating on the clouds and the next he's trying to find the next best thing. His actions show both sides. One personality he's deeply in love. His other personality he's outta love and can't stand you. Oh yeah and it's more than just a relationship.....it's a marriage.
You are in a relationship with a man, whose love, you are not sure of, AND, you are married?
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Old 06-01-2009, 11:42 PM
 
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I agree that it's time for marriage counseling. If he won't go with you, go alone. My ex-husband initially said he'd go with me to marriage counseling, but then changed his mind an hour before our appointment. I was furious, but I had to go because I was going to be charged for it anyway. I figured I'd tearfully explain to the therapist what happened, pay her and leave ... never to see her again. WRONG! I ended up going to see her for the next year. She gave me insights into my marriage that I had never seen before and then gave me the strength and courage to leave.
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Old 06-02-2009, 12:42 AM
 
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What do you do if you're in a relationship with a man and you don't really know if he truly loves you? One day you guys are floating on the clouds and the next he's trying to find the next best thing. His actions show both sides. One personality he's deeply in love. His other personality he's outta love and can't stand you. Oh yeah and it's more than just a relationship.....it's a marriage.

What are some things that he does that show you that he doesn't care?
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Old 06-02-2009, 12:46 AM
 
Location: Coachella Valley, California
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What do you do if you're in a relationship with a man and you don't really know if he truly loves you? One day you guys are floating on the clouds and the next he's trying to find the next best thing. His actions show both sides. One personality he's deeply in love. His other personality he's outta love and can't stand you. Oh yeah and it's more than just a relationship.....it's a marriage.
WWTTD??? I would just start calling him Sybil and let it go.
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Old 06-02-2009, 10:22 AM
 
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Boy, your marriage is also in the rockies. First this thread, and then you posted about your husband emailing to his EX. What else is going on?
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