OK people time to share tips for all the nice guys who find themselves finishing last with girls. What can they do if they don't want to radically alter their personalities or put on a completely fake front to get girls? What little things can they do to add enough of an edge to attract the kind of women they long for in their lives?
I'll start.
cuinlalaland's Top 10 Ways to Attract Girls
#1 - Ignore her when you know she's staring at you.
#2 - If you feel you must respond to her leer, look her right in the eye with a dirty look like you just caught her red-handed, then smile so she knows you're just teasing
#3 - Don't follow her around like a puppy or ever, EVER, do her bidding like a love-sick slave.
#4 - Don't be her shoulder to cry on about the guys she's dating.
#5 - Be friends with everyone.
#6 - Flirt. Tease. Play. Joke.
#7 - Don't worry about what/who you aren't.
#8 - In fact, just don't worry about anything, period. Girls worry all the time about everything. So a guy who's comfortable about where and who he is, is refreshing.
#9 - Lead.
#10 - Be comfortable in the midst of a group of girls.
I left this one last because it's a bit complicated. Most guys are terrified of groups of girls, they want to get girls alone because a) rejection is less painful and b) one girl is already intimidating enough. Problem with this attitude is that single women usually go out with friends AND single women are
much less likely to have their guard up when they have the supportive protection of those friends, so you're missing out big time if you can't make yourself part of a group.
The tricky part is that you don't want to be viewed by them as just another friend (or dare I say, "one of the girls"?
) The way to do that is to lead the group. This isn't nearly as difficult as it is to lead a group of guys, for that you need to be THE alpha. But a group of girls will follow the lead of pretty much any guy who's willing to step into the role.
How do you lead a group of girls? By being the social connection between them. You can do this by uniting the group in laughter with your sense of humor. Or you can be the common ground by starting with one or two girls and introducing them to other girls. You can also be the one who suggests fun activities for the group to do.
Why would you want to be the man amongst girls? Because they all respect the alpha of their group and never view him as 'just a friend'. If anything they tend to compete for your attention. And when you're clearly the leader of a group it shows you have an unusual set of social skills and pre-approves you with other girls.
All in all it's a good thing. Just make sure you don't start acting like them and become identified as the gay friend. Be a man, only be a man who's comfortable surrounded by estrogen
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