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Okay, so I know that the title is incredibly whiny and conducive to eye rolling but I would really appreciate it to get some outsider advice to my scenario.
I'm a seventeen year old girl who attends high school in a relatively small rural southern (in the Carolinas) town. It's very "country" and etc. but not completely isolated (even though there are parts and people that are).
I wasn't raised here and I decided to start high school here because I had a very close friend who I wanted to go to school with. I was raised in private schools and this high school was my first public school ever.
To the main point of this thread, guys just don't like me. I've tried to make light of the situation but eventually I gave up and tossed it aside because I couldn't really think of why.
Girls say I'm pretty and I think I'm attractive but the majority of the guys don't pay much attention to me. Sometimes I wonder if it's because of my diverse background (I'm Asian and French, both of which are fairly rare in this town and a non-existent combination with the exception of me). I'm friendly (but not flirty since I suck at flirting lol) and a little on the mature side when it comes to my peers (this isn't my own idea, but from the opinion of others). The guys that I do attract fall into one of the following categories:
1. Sleazy - they hit on any living, breathing girl that gets within 100 feet of them.
2. Older - they're in their 30's and 40's. Why????
It doesn't bother me so much that none of the guys at my school pay attention to me since I'm not interested in any of them in that context but even guys from other schools that I'd love to get to know more pretty much act as if I'm invisible. It seems guys only notice the skinny, cookie-cutter pretty Barbie-like girls.
So, in short, why don't guys like me?
If you need to see pictures to make sure I'm not really a troll that's missing teeth and wondering why guys aren't hanging all over her, then send me a private message. But I am not posting my pictures on an internet forum.
If you need to see pictures to make sure I'm not really a troll that's missing teeth and wondering why guys aren't hanging all over her, then send me a private message. But I am not posting my pictures on an internet forum.
Good call on the picture thing. Moving to east Texas to attend a small town, redneck high school, a lot of people thought I was a prude for the way I dressed (nice) and how reserved I was at first. You just gotta go out there and get drunk with everyone a few times. Plus if you are anything like me, your inhibitions go to the wind and you start opening up with people when you've got a few drinks in you. Oh yea, you don't have to sleep with anyone to be cool. I know that sounds kind of juvenile, but I made it through high school without having sex and I was one of the coolest guys around by the time I graduated. Playing sports helps too.
Okay, so I know that the title is incredibly whiny and conducive to eye rolling but I would really appreciate it to get some outsider advice to my scenario.
I'm a seventeen year old girl who attends high school in a relatively small rural southern (in the Carolinas) town. It's very "country" and etc. but not completely isolated (even though there are parts and people that are).
I wasn't raised here and I decided to start high school here because I had a very close friend who I wanted to go to school with. I was raised in private schools and this high school was my first public school ever.
To the main point of this thread, guys just don't like me. I've tried to make light of the situation but eventually I gave up and tossed it aside because I couldn't really think of why.
Girls say I'm pretty and I think I'm attractive but the majority of the guys don't pay much attention to me. Sometimes I wonder if it's because of my diverse background (I'm Asian and French, both of which are fairly rare in this town and a non-existent combination with the exception of me). I'm friendly (but not flirty since I suck at flirting lol) and a little on the mature side when it comes to my peers (this isn't my own idea, but from the opinion of others). The guys that I do attract fall into one of the following categories:
1. Sleazy - they hit on any living, breathing girl that gets within 100 feet of them.
2. Older - they're in their 30's and 40's. Why????
It doesn't bother me so much that none of the guys at my school pay attention to me since I'm not interested in any of them in that context but even guys from other schools that I'd love to get to know more pretty much act as if I'm invisible. It seems guys only notice the skinny, cookie-cutter pretty Barbie-like girls.
So, in short, why don't guys like me?
If you need to see pictures to make sure I'm not really a troll that's missing teeth and wondering why guys aren't hanging all over her, then send me a private message. But I am not posting my pictures on an internet forum.
I don't know anyone who could answer this question but you. Focus on getting into the best college you can get into, exercise, and work on being the best you. Sounds like the type of guy you're interested in is in college.
I thnik as you get older you will find that the same boys start moving away from the sleazy type and more towards the type you say you are. When you get older you can go into a bar and see that type still hanging around waiting for someone to rescue them.The girl with teh missing teeth has started down that road most proably.At 17 I would satrt down the few drinks thing really.
Good call on the picture thing. Moving to east Texas to attend a small town, redneck high school, a lot of people thought I was a prude for the way I dressed (nice) and how reserved I was at first. You just gotta go out there and get drunk with everyone a few times. Plus if you are anything like me, your inhibitions go to the wind and you start opening up with people when you've got a few drinks in you. Oh yea, you don't have to sleep with anyone to be cool. I know that sounds kind of juvenile, but I made it through high school without having sex and I was one of the coolest guys around by the time I graduated. Playing sports helps too.
I do enjoy a good party every now and then so that's not necessarily a problem. In fact, I just recalled a party a few months ago when I had a little too much (okay, a lot) to drink and I did manage to find some cute and interested guys lol. Hmm. I definitely act much more interested in guys in general when I've had a little to drink.
And I'm a cheerleader so that may knock out the sports thing (depending whether or not you consider cheerleading a sport.)
I don't know anyone who could answer this question but you. Focus on getting into the best college you can get into, exercise, and work on being the best you. Sounds like the type of guy you're interested in is in college.
Check, check, and check. I do all of those three things already.
This isn't a whine or rant, more just of a question to throw there and see what other people besides myself think. I've pondered this topic with a few friends but they're all baffled and don't have any answers themselves (and I doubt they're just flattering me because they have proven themselves to be brutally honest in the past).
Small town and asian...That could be why. Maybe their parents do not allow them. I was told my loser parents if I even brought any one home of another race they would kill them. Which of course they were being dramatic. But I did not even bother.
One of my close friends in HS was the prettiest girl in the class. She did not get hit on much either.
Boys have self esteem issues too and are intimidated by looks at that age.
I really regret having wasted so much time and energy when I was in high school trying to attract guys. I wish I had focused on getting good grades, getting into the best college I could, and establishing myself in a fulfilling career without worrying about guys. I found out much later that they tend to show up precisely when you're not looking for them. So my advice to you is this: Be the best YOU you can be, and stop worrying about guys.
If you need to see pictures to make sure I'm not really a troll that's missing teeth and wondering why guys aren't hanging all over her, then send me a private message. But I am not posting my pictures on an internet forum.
You shouldn't even be offering to send anyone your picture, pengirl. If you know you are good looking, that's all that matters.
You're 17, you have youth in your hands, enjoy it. You have your whole life in front of you to get whichever guy you want. Chin up
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so that's not necessarily a problem. In fact, I just recalled a party a few months ago when I had a little too much (okay, a lot) to drink and I did manage to find some cute and interested guys lol. Hmm. I definitely act much more interested in guys in general when I've had a little to drink. 
