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My son was 8 when I got divorced, little late for the adoption thing, doncha think? I guess I should have thrown him away since being a single parent is so horrible and inconvenient....
It's more reasonable to give the kid TWO parents. One works, one stays at home with the kid.
No, for the most part, I don't speak a word to a kid--or for that matter, anyone else--because I have no authority to do so.
That's sad that you would never speak up. Show some respect for yourself. I was on a plane the other day and some kids behind me were acting up. They were bothering everyone nearby. Finally, I stood up and said something. The kids shut up and several other passengers thanked me. Just because I'm not their parent doesn't mean I have to sit there and be quiet.
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Originally Posted by TKramar
It's more reasonable to give the kid TWO parents. One works, one stays at home with the kid.
God forbid a child grow up believing that a person can be a full-time parent and have a career too. This is not 1950.
Denny, I don't have a right to tell someone else what to do--you think you do? People like you are the problem with the world.
If you try to juggle a job and childcare, one or the other is going to suffer. Which one is it going to be?
Actually in some cases, like the one I described above, you do. That's sad that you can't figure out when to speak up. People like you are the problem with the world.
There are plenty of people out there who can juggle a job and raising children. I ask you again, what year do you think this is? From the sound of it, you think women should be barefoot and pregnant and never have careers if they have kids. What a sad and outdated view of the world.
There's not one instance when someone has the RIGHT to tell someone else what to do. We have the RIGHT to make our own decisions and choices in life. And never is this more true than when you're dealing with *someone else's* child! You definitely don't have a right to control them then.
On the other issue, as I said--one or the other is going to suffer. Your choice.
Actually in some cases, like the one I described above, you do. That's sad that you can't figure out when to speak up. People like you are the problem with the world.
There are plenty of people out there who can juggle a job and raising children. I ask you again, what year do you think this is? From the sound of it, you think women should be barefoot and pregnant and never have careers if they have kids. What a sad and outdated view of the world.
Don't recall him saying that, but there isn't much denying the fact if the later is done, home schooling and such the child is usually far smarter and more likely to get and complete higher levels of education.
Barefoot and pregnant as a rule? No, but if you know of any Amish women around that would be willing to convert to heathenism, use deodorant, feminine products, and a razor I'm game.
There's not one instance when someone has the RIGHT to tell someone else what to do. We have the RIGHT to make our own decisions and choices in life. And never is this more true than when you're dealing with *someone else's* child! You definitely don't have a right to control them then.
On the other issue, as I said--one or the other is going to suffer. Your choice.
Who said anything about controlling them? But you make it sound like even speaking up is the same discipline. It's not. If my friend's kid starts making a mess at my house, I have every right to say something to him. That's not discipline.
As for the other point about the tradeoff between career and child care, millions of parents out there have proven you wrong. My parents managed to raise their kids just fine despite both having full-time jobs. Maybe you're just not one of those people who's capable of juggling more than one responsibility.
By working, you're taking away time that you COULD be spending WITH them. Oh...right...you are probably one of those who calls off work just because Jimmy's got a ball game or Susie's got a recital. Of course, you don't tell the BOSS that. You just tell him that you're sick and you can't come in. Which means the WORK suffers. Gotcha.
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