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Just trying to get a feel here. Talking with some people here about it is like talking to a wall. I feel sorry for ya if you haven't. It's a great feeling. When you really love someone, you always will, regardless of whether or not things end up working out. There's not the slightest bit of bitterness. You look back and see the experience only as a blessing.
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Just trying to get a feel here. Talking with some people here about it is like talking to a wall. I feel sorry for ya if you haven't. It's a great feeling. When you really love someone, you always will, regardless of whether or not things end up working out. There's not the slightest bit of bitterness. You look back and see it only as a blessing.
Whatcha talkin' about? I love myself every night. Oh! That kind. Yes, once. T'was great while it lasted.
Just trying to get a feel here. Talking with some people here about it is like talking to a wall. I feel sorry for ya if you haven't. It's a great feeling. When you really love someone, you always will, regardless of whether or not things end up working out. There's not the slightest bit of bitterness. You look back and see it only as a blessing.
There's romantic love and there's love. Romantic love doesn't last and real love is about getting past the bitterness.
Unconditional love is what you feel for a young child. It doesn't exist in adult relationships. :-(
Just trying to get a feel here. Talking with some people here about it is like talking to a wall. I feel sorry for ya if you haven't. It's a great feeling. When you really love someone, you always will, regardless of whether or not things end up working out. There's not the slightest bit of bitterness. You look back and see it only as a blessing.
Well I've actually loved a lot of people, friends and family and lovers. I'd not have been in a relationship with them if I didn't love them, REALLY love them and I know when I look back that I will be able to say that I always loved them. There are people that I love, that I will love until I die. BUT I'm not blind to their faults, or my faults or the randomness of the universe in general and even though I might love someone until the day I die, doesn't mean I always like them or that I'm not bitter about things that they did or how things turned out.
I can and do and will always love some people in my life BUT some of them I will also hate at different times, be ambivilent to, bitter with, angry with, dismissive of, a whole plethora of human emotions. That's life.
There's romantic love and there's love. Romantic love doesn't last and real love is about getting past the bitterness.
Unconditional love is what you feel for a young child. It doesn't exist in adult relationships. :-(
I'm sorry you feel that way. Love by definition is unconditional
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I sure have, in the purest and most selfless way. Nothing and no one has compared to it since.
Amazing isn't it. Especially at the moment when it hits you like a ton of bricks. I'll never forget it. It's too beautiful to describe with the words of men.
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Well I've actually loved a lot of people, friends and family and lovers. I'd not have been in a relationship with them if I didn't love them, REALLY love them and I know when I look back that I will be able to say that I always loved them. There are people that I love, that I will love until I die. BUT I'm not blind to their faults, or my faults or the randomness of the universe in general and even though I might love someone until the day I die, doesn't mean I always like them or that I'm not bitter about things that they did or how things turned out.
I can and do and will always love some people in my life BUT some of them I will also hate at different times, be ambivilent to, bitter with, angry with, dismissive of, a whole plethora of human emotions. That's life.
I see where you're coming from. Of course there are going to be the ups and downs, but when you really connect on that level with someone, things cannot change between you and that love will never die. It binds you.
I see where you're coming from. Of course there are going to be the ups and downs, but when you really connect on that level with someone, things cannot change between you and that love will never die. It binds you.
I'm not disputing that it does bind you or that it will ever die, only that for some people, including myself that love, even unconditional love can sit side by side with hate or anger or bitterness. I can love someone right now, know that I will love them forever no matter what but I might not always like them, I might not always think they're great and they may do things that are hurtful, that make me feel angry and bitter. It won't stop me loving them but I cannot deny that I will feel other emotions in relation to them as well as undying love.
It may not die, but it's not enough to sustain a relationship. Once the chemicals settle down, the incompatibilities rear their ugly heads.
It's always important to discern the chemical high from the qualities you actually love them for.
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I'm not disputing that it does bind you or that it will ever die, only that for some people, including myself that love, even unconditional love can sit side by side with hate or anger or bitterness. I can love someone right now, know that I will love them forever no matter what but I might not always like them, I might not always think they're great and they may do things that are hurtful, that make me feel angry and bitter. It won't stop me loving them but I cannot deny that I will feel other emotions in relation to them as well as undying love.
We're on the same page. You're bound to feel every emotion that exists about the ones you love, but at the end of the day, love goes on and triumphs over anything else you feel about that person.
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