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Old 05-04-2010, 05:01 PM
 
Location: Tacompton, WA
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Look depending on his age, I don't blame her. Women want men who have their stuff together. Living with mommy is a sign that he doesn't. (even if he does) It's comforting knowing you don't have to deal with sleep over issues and having his mommy doing his laundry and cooking for him. You shouldn't dislike your friend for not wanting those issues from a potential mate lol.

If he's fresh out of college and not close to 30 then it's not that big of a deal, as long as her ambitions don't include being completely serious with a man yet. But maybe she wants to try dating someone who is a little older than her if that's what she wants.

My chick best friend is dating someone who is almost 30 and he lives in his sisters downstairs. He works but i think he's a loser. There are other factors like he doesn't take care of his daughter when she's visiting. He doesn't pay for anything at all and makes my friend pay for his gambling and etc. If you are an adult you should not be living with your parents by choice! Save money.... GET A ROOMMATE OR TWO!
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Old 05-04-2010, 06:24 PM
 
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In America it is...in Brazil it's not and other places it's the norm to live with your family until you actually marry...We are used to this whole making it on our own thing, but as the economy has turned bad I personally have met more people who have to live back at home now. Are we bad people?...Well I guess that depends what social class you're coming from
It's amazing how our country is so different from the rest of the world in terms of dating, relationships, and lifestyles. A lot of times, it frustrates me in our way of thinking. We wonder why divorce rates are sky high, people make crappy decisions, and families are rather dysfunctional and it just pays to be single these days.

Are Europeans the same way in terms of living at home until marriage?
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Old 05-15-2010, 12:39 PM
 
Location: Middle Earth
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A man living with his mom -- not a good sign.
A person making assumptions without evidence not a good sign.
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Old 05-15-2010, 02:30 PM
 
Location: South FL
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I think it really depends on how old he is...If he is in his forties and living with mom to save money, ehhh.. I don't think so. I think under 30 is acceptable. Then again, I'm a nice girl.
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Old 05-15-2010, 03:54 PM
 
Location: Portlandia "burbs"
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I don't see any real problem with an adult guy living with his mother to help stablize his situation. I don't even think I see a problem with his living there to keep her company or help out.

But if he shows signs of staying there just because he's cheap (and this can be a BIG warning sign), can't keep or job or shows signs of instability, or likes to be "taken care of" by his mama (truly a mama's boy), or if there's visible signs of too much "ownership" from his mother, then a woman with brains needs to run like a bad outa' Hell.
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Old 05-15-2010, 06:11 PM
 
Location: International Spacestation
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I tell women I live with my mother all the time & that I have 6 kids from 4 women. I have not lived with my parents sinse I was 19 & Im 30 now. Where I live is the stupidest thing to judge me one. So I give her worst case senario. If she is still interested. I try my best to show her a good time.
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Old 05-15-2010, 06:33 PM
 
Location: International Spacestation
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I'd say Mr. Right needs to grow up. If he's able bodied and in his mid-late 20s there's no reason to live with his mom. Obviously he has some issues. Even if you're only making minimum wage you can find a cheap place. I did when I was 23 and couldn't imagine living with mom/dad much past that age.
Can you define what a real grown up man is for us?
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Old 05-15-2010, 11:47 PM
 
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dont see the issue... just move him in with you if the time is right problem solved
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Old 05-17-2010, 01:32 PM
 
Location: Homeless
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Look depending on his age, I don't blame her. Women want men who have their stuff together. Living with mommy is a sign that he doesn't. (even if he does) It's comforting knowing you don't have to deal with sleep over issues and having his mommy doing his laundry and cooking for him. You shouldn't dislike your friend for not wanting those issues from a potential mate lol.

If he's fresh out of college and not close to 30 then it's not that big of a deal, as long as her ambitions don't include being completely serious with a man yet. But maybe she wants to try dating someone who is a little older than her if that's what she wants.

My chick best friend is dating someone who is almost 30 and he lives in his sisters downstairs. He works but i think he's a loser. There are other factors like he doesn't take care of his daughter when she's visiting. He doesn't pay for anything at all and makes my friend pay for his gambling and etc. If you are an adult you should not be living with your parents by choice! Save money.... GET A ROOMMATE OR TWO!
If my financial situation was so bad I had to live with someone, it would either have to be my parents or my aunt and uncle.

The only people I have known long enough that the trust i have in them is deserved.
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Old 05-16-2012, 05:17 PM
 
Location: South Carolina
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It is interesting that a long time ago living with your family was seen as the thing to do in America and still is in many other countries but now we are all for getting away from our family. Who cares if you live with your parents or with room mates or on your own? Why are we judging people on something so unimportant as where someone lives. No wonder so many people are single.
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