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Old 04-29-2010, 07:58 PM
 
Location: Northside Of Jacksonville
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In my age group, it's common for a lot of guys to still live at home. I don't really have a problem with this unless they are planning on just staying at home. I think it just makes more sense to stay at home and save money than to pay an obscene amount of rent for an apartment when you're parents live in the same city. If I could have done it over, I'd still be living at home.
This woman speaks the truth, that's why I love her It's funny that women aren't looked down on the same way as men for choosing to live at home. Honestly, I'd have no issue with my woman living at home PROVIDED she was going to move out eventually. There comes a time where you must stand on your own. What does it look like to have to come over your parents house and ask what's for dinner
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Old 04-29-2010, 08:08 PM
 
Location: Bergen County, NJ
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That's so mean & hurtful, "Beneath her" ... Such snobbery. I never think of another human-being as above me, beneath me, but only beside me ... No one is ever better than anyone else. We're all created equally~ Some may be just more driven than others, or blessed in areas that others aren't.

In this economy, perhaps he has a good reason for living back home. Hell! He's lucky he can do that and infact, it's not a bad idea. Perhaps he's saving to "buy," in lieu of "rent". Maybe his mother is a lone and in that case she truly blessed to have a son to temporarily move back in and be there for her. Everyone has a story and he may just have one that he doesn't not want to reveal.

I try not to judge and if I'm looking down, it's to extend a guiding hand up.

Your friend doesn't sound so deep and full of meaningful substance. That is a shame. Life is so limited, in the snap of the fingers it can be ripped out and gone in seconds.
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Old 04-30-2010, 05:33 PM
 
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That is why there the same "eligible" men get the majority of the women.

Women marry up. The ones that marry down either accepted it, settled, or are resentful.
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Old 04-30-2010, 05:35 PM
 
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This woman speaks the truth, that's why I love her It's funny that women aren't looked down on the same way as men for choosing to live at home. Honestly, I'd have no issue with my woman living at home PROVIDED she was going to move out eventually. There comes a time where you must stand on your own. What does it look like to have to come over your parents house and ask what's for dinner


If men started looking down on women who stay at home or who are broke, or unemployed, or don't have much $, that would be true equality of the sexes!
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Old 04-30-2010, 07:06 PM
 
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How do divorces and the era of single mothers/fathers play into this situation? Seems like this is common of those in those who are in their 20s.
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Old 04-30-2010, 07:10 PM
 
Location: Pelion, South Carolina/orig. from Cape May, NJ
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With the state of the economy being what it is, I would be surprised if he DIDN'T live with someone (parents, siblings, roommates, etc.)
I must say that's a pretty lame reason to refuse to date someone.
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Old 04-30-2010, 07:12 PM
 
Location: southern california
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many do and 1 in 3 under 30, do live with their mother. imho guys these days are not too sharp, having mom keep an eye on the new girl is a great idea.
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Old 04-30-2010, 07:16 PM
 
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Your friend could be a gold-digger. If she won't date a guy who could be trying to save up by living with his mom to get his own place, I'm sure she'll definitely date him if he has $$$. Now, if he's just living in his mom's shadow freeloading, then she is in the good.
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Old 04-30-2010, 10:32 PM
 
Location: Middle Earth
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If men started looking down on women who stay at home or who are broke, or unemployed, or don't have much $, that would be true equality of the sexes!
If that happened there would be a lot more single people. Thankfully for woman men seem for the most part to be more open minded.
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Old 04-30-2010, 11:37 PM
 
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Default Would you date a guy that lived with his mother

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I have been trying to set my good friend up with a guy that I know. He is a really nice guy, He is good looking with a terrific body, he does not have children, he does not do drugs, and he has a job and college experience. The only thing is that right now he lives with his mom. He moved in with his mom to save some money and he is working towards moving out.

So I told her all of this, and she said it was o.k. for him to call her, and he called her the day before yesterday. When I talked to her about him today, I asked her was she going to call him back, and she said she was, but I could tell in her voice that she really didn't want to. To make a long story short, I asked her why she didn't want to call him, and she said that it's cause he lives with his mom...and basically he is beneath her.

I was really upset with her about this, and i wonder how many women think like this! If it were me and I saw that they guy had goals and was working toward something I would give him a shot. She won't even give the guy the time of day based on one temporary situation. IMO, it's a shame and I am starting to feel sorry for some of the guys out here that can't even get a chance to be with someone unless they are totally perfect. She is a total B#$%h!!
When a guy still lives with his mother or with his parents, he is a long, long way from being perfect. I take my hat off to your girl friend, sounds like she has her head on straight. I don't care what his circumstances are, in my mind, he has a problem. Of course, I'm a guy, but that is how I feel about the situation. How do you know it's a temporary situation? If he's over twenty he needs to be living in his own home. I wouldn't date a woman that lived with her mother either. In fact, thinking back during my dating days, I met a lady at a video rental business. Over the course of several weeks I became quite fasinated with this lady, she was darn good looking, had a great personality, and was stacked. The best thing, she was interested in going out when her mom could baby sit for her. When she started making arrangements for a baby sitter is when I realized she lived with her mother. I put the brakes on and we remained friends, but we never did go out on that first date. If I were a woman, I wouldn't date anyone that didn't have a few essentials in life already and had no visable signs of supporting himself.
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