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Obviously these guys are Bi at least but the point is that they identify and present themselves as straight. They hide their activities. I always suspected that while they can keep that part of their life separate from everything else that society says is "normal" in his life (ie: wife & children, 9-5 job and house in the burbs) then they don't have to admit to themselves, and their disapproving loved ones, what their true orientation is.
That is completely different from what the OP has suggested.
I think that there are a great deal of older men in these situations because at the time they were in their teens/20's society was not as accepting of homosexuality. They probably felt they had no choice. Now they find themselves in their 50's/60's and older living in a society that is now more accepting of this. I wonder how many men who have been married for 40 or more years with children and grandchildren really were hiding a side of themselves that they felt no one would understand/accept.
Good points. However, there was something of a place for "confirmed bachelors" in the past. I know we had a few in my extended family. (No such pass for bachelorettes, though!)
Nope. Just opportunistic, LOL. And, again, they're trying to find the loopholes in what society demands so they can claim to be abstinent and satisfy their sexual urges at the same time.
It was problematic, though, with the young men who truly WERE homosexual. They'd get crushes on these guys and think they had a chance (when the guys were totally using them) and if they "overstepped a boundary," the guys would beat them up. I felt really badly for them and tried to warn them but they wouldn't listen. I guess they had fantasies of dating the quarterback, too, and being accepted by the "in-crowd." Never happened.
But would you consider these guys heterosexual? They sound bisexual to me.
I think I agree, but what exactly do you mean by "hypocrisy?" Hypocritical about what?
Well, from what I've seen, they're usually the biggest "homophobes" and when they finally are "discovered" they back-pedal that stand like their feet were on fire.
Personally, I consider it firmly none of my business what people do in their private lives, but I really don't stomach well those who complain (and often, loudly) about the very same behavior they're sneaking around doing.
I also have a heck of a lot more respect for a man who would leave his wife and children, rather than drag them through the depths of h*ll once it's found out.
Prison sexuality is a completely different phenomenon from sexual orientation. Look it up. Assumptions like these are why I keep emphasizing that sexual orientation is not always who you have sex with, but what you're oriented/attracted to.
The guy who has consensual sex in prison, or who forces himself on another male, is still gay or bi.
I've just noticed that it's been getting a lot of exposure, and is discussed frequently in various venues.
Yes, but this doesn't make it newer, stronger, or more pervasive. It just means that we are living in a time where more people are discussing it. I do think, however, that the fact that this happens speaks to how pervasive heterosexism still is in our society.
deals with sexual relationships between confined individuals or those between a prisoner and a prison employee (or other persons to whom prisoners have access). Since prisons are separated by gender, most sexual activity is conducted with a same-sex partner, often in contradiction to a person's normal social sexual orientation. Exceptions to this are sex with an employee of the opposite sex, as well as conjugal visits.
So, unless the male prisoner is having sex with a female C/O or is having his wife come in for conjugal visits, I'd pretty much say the prisoner, having sex with the same gender........................... is gay.....
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