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I am excited to be heading to med school this fall, but feel like I have taken a step backwards with regards to the dating/romance scene. I am looking at going into possibly child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, or oncology. Whenever I tell potential dates about my future goals they give me negative feedback. For example, “who would ever go out with a nerdy neurologist” or “I don’t want to date someone who is going to be out at 3:00 AM to go do surgery”.
Maybe medicine wasn’t such a great route eh? Maybe I should have gone to law or business? My one lawyer friend(girl) is always going out with great guys and getting called constantly. My other business friend(guy) is happily engaged to a sweet girl.
I honestly love treating patients(kids especially) and watching them improve, though. It looks like I am a lost medical student on the dating scene. Maybe you can help me out? Which medical specialty out of the four(child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, oncology) would you be willing to date, possibly get into a serious relationship with? Any words of advice you have would be appreciated.
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[SIZE=3]I honestly love treating patients(kids especially) and watching them improve, though. It looks like I am a lost medical student on the dating scene. Maybe you can help me out? Which medical specialty out of the four(child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, oncology) would you be willing to date, possibly get into a serious relationship with? Any words of advice you have would be appreciated. [/SIZE]
Take it from a lawyer, who also had to go through an exasperating education followed by years and years of backbreaking work:
It's hell on one's social life.
Friends get distant, you can't hold down relationships (who has the time?), leisure time is scarce and you're entering a whole new world where only your colleagues understand you and your problems.
It's just an issue. It's a sacrifice for other things.
I am excited to be heading to med school this fall, but feel like I have taken a step backwards with regards to the dating/romance scene. I am looking at going into possibly child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, or oncology. Whenever I tell potential dates about my future goals they give me negative feedback. For example, “who would ever go out with a nerdy neurologist” or “I don’t want to date someone who is going to be out at 3:00 AM to go do surgery”. Maybe medicine wasn’t such a great route eh? Maybe I should have gone to law or business? My one lawyer friend(girl) is always going out with great guys and getting called constantly. My other business friend(guy) is happily engaged to a sweet girl. I honestly love treating patients(kids especially) and watching them improve, though. It looks like I am a lost medical student on the dating scene. Maybe you can help me out? Which medical specialty out of the four(child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, oncology) would you be willing to date, possibly get into a serious relationship with? Any words of advice you have would be appreciated.
Find a girl who likes you and is able to understand and accept that you may not have as much free time to spend with her as she would like. My bf had a hard time dating because he worked overnights at UPS and was in school so he had very little free time. Did it bother me that with our schedules he was going to work when I was going to bed and vice versa? Yes. Did it bother me that when I wanted to go to the movies he had to study for an Economics final? Yes. Did it bother me that I rarely see him during Christmas because he's out driving that big ugly brown truck? Yes. But was it worth it? Yes, because I loved him and whenever we did spend time together, it was special because I knew there was probably something else he needed to be doing but he was making time for me.
I don't know too many girls who don't want a doctor though
You know, I've never given it a 2nd thought as I've never traveled in these circles. I hate hospitals for one thing and stay away from them as much as I possibly can. It's not like I'd rule out a doctor, but I wouldn't go out of my way to find one, either. Doctors seem to be desired by many women. I highly doubt there's any reason other than good income, though.
It makes me a bit nervous you would ask perfect strangers about a possible fellowship route...
Get through the first years of med school and then decide on a specialty. You will find someone who is willing to live with the hectic life of a specialist.
I am excited to be heading to med school this fall, but feel like I have taken a step backwards with regards to the dating/romance scene. I am looking at going into possibly child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, or oncology. Whenever I tell potential dates about my future goals they give me negative feedback. For example, “who would ever go out with a nerdy neurologist” or “I don’t want to date someone who is going to be out at 3:00 AM to go do surgery”.
Maybe medicine wasn’t such a great route eh? Maybe I should have gone to law or business? My one lawyer friend(girl) is always going out with great guys and getting called constantly. My other business friend(guy) is happily engaged to a sweet girl.
I honestly love treating patients(kids especially) and watching them improve, though. It looks like I am a lost medical student on the dating scene. Maybe you can help me out? Which medical specialty out of the four(child neurology, laparoscopic surgery, pediatric surgery, oncology) would you be willing to date, possibly get into a serious relationship with? Any words of advice you have would be appreciated.
If anyone doesn't want to date you because you are a doctor, or are going to be one in the future, they are the idiots. I guarantee you there will be many others who will want to date you. I would have loved to have dated a doctor or 10.
I had the good [or bad] fortune to marry a man who wanted to be a Dr.
I highly recommend any woman who is involved with a medical student to really know what she is getting into. Between the years of schooling, residency, and fellowship (which you will clearly be doing, based upon your chosen specialties), it is a long, hard road that will take 10 years plus before you have a normal life, if you then do in fact have a normal life.
I can tell you that neither myself nor my DH really knew what "we" were getting into was a 10 year commitment. It was an incredible commitment on his part, my part, and on behalf of our marriage and family.
I advise women to date for love and compatibility, not for what the man is going to be.
As for you, get on with your studies and if you find love, go with it if you think she has the stamina to deal with your chosen career, or move on if you think she won't. The last thing you are going to need is a clingy, needy girlfriend. Med School will be hard enough.
I want somebody whose career won't always come before family. If there's a doctor out there where that's not the case, yeah, sure, I'd entertain the thought. But anybody I'm with for the long term, it's a given that family will be the priority. There are people in every profession who put their career over their families, though. It's not like it's a doctor thing.
It would have been nice if someone was able to address the question regarding medical specialities.
I have shadowed pediatrician's before and enjoy working with kids. I have also volunteered in a surgery department before. Hope that helps answer your question Mr.Stewart, since you seem skeptical.
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