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Have to agree 100%!
My wife snores, and sometimes loud. All I do is wake her up and ask her to turn over (away from me) and she does. Then her snoring goes down to a "purr" of a snore that I can handle. We would NEVER consider sleeping in different beds or bedrooms.......BUT, that is the way our marriage is!
And, when people see/hear something they think is "odd/not in the norm", sometimes they will say something about it. I have a "curious state" in my personality.....doesn't bother my wife (thank God!).
Actually, wife and I have had people comment to us about how much time we spend together when not working. We don't get angry about their "wondering", we simply say "we are very compatable and like a lot of the same things!"
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Again, I do not understand just accepting this snoring situation - people need to seek help for that and not give up sleeping with their spouses over it.
Have to agree 100%!
My wife snores, and sometimes loud. All I do is wake her up and ask her to turn over (away from me) and she does. Then her snoring goes down to a "purr" of a snore that I can handle. We would NEVER consider sleeping in different beds or bedrooms.......BUT, that is the way our marriage is!
And, when people see/hear something they think is "odd/not in the norm", sometimes they will say something about it. I have a "curious state" in my personality.....doesn't bother my wife (thank God!).
Actually, wife and I have had people comment to us about how much time we spend together when not working. We don't get angry about their "wondering", we simply say "we are very compatable and like a lot of the same things!"
I guess many people don't think it's normal because not so long ago husband and wife were sleeping and separate beds. I guess you don't have to be tangled in the sheets to love your spouse - that being said I'd take any medical treatments necessary before I give up my cuddle time
Have to agree 100%!
My wife snores, and sometimes loud. All I do is wake her up and ask her to turn over (away from me) and she does. Then her snoring goes down to a "purr" of a snore that I can handle. We would NEVER consider sleeping in different beds or bedrooms.......BUT, that is the way our marriage is!
Eh, I think it depends on the people and situation. I deal with my SO's snoring to the point I purchase those nose strips, religiously. They help somewhat. I still have to poke, or shake a shoulder and sometimes if I'm really cranky due to the snoring I'll start tugging on her pillow which is a sure fire way to get her to turn over.
The poking, shaking and even toe nudges make her wake up in a start and go "What?!" Often, it is not worth it to me to do. A pillow over my head helps somewhat but I have issues with not being able to breathe cool fresh air and I am an insomniac. Some nights the couch is the best option for me because if the snoring is really bad I'm not going to be able to fall asleep for love nor money. Sometimes at 3 in the morning I dang sure would consider a second bedroom if I thought I could get away with it.
No way. Saying that to your face is extremely disrespectful and mean BTW.
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Recently some distant relatives and old friends who have not seen us for a long time came to visit. When we showed them around the house of course they noticed that Jerry and I sleep in separate rooms. They acted all strange and suggested we must be in a marriage of convenience or gay and just married to look good. They were quite bold and told us that a loving couple do not sleep in separate rooms.
We have to because he snores so bad and we have completely different sleep schedules and we can not sleep with our insomnia in the same bed.
Eh, I think it depends on the people and situation. I deal with my SO's snoring to the point I purchase those nose strips, religiously. They help somewhat. I still have to poke, or shake a shoulder and sometimes if I'm really cranky due to the snoring I'll start tugging on her pillow which is a sure fire way to get her to turn over. The poking, shaking and even toe nudges make her wake up in a start and go "What?!" Often, it is not worth it to me to do. A pillow over my head helps somewhat but I have issues with not being able to breathe cool fresh air and I am an insomniac. Some nights the couch is the best option for me because if the snoring is really bad I'm not going to be able to fall asleep for love nor money. Sometimes at 3 in the morning I dang sure would consider a second bedroom if I thought I could get away with it.
Your poking, shaking, nudging and putting a pillow over your head sounds like the way my husband and I were. To give you an idea of how LOUD he is, my son, his wife and I were out in the driveway talking. We had just been swimming in our pool and they were getting ready to go home. My husband had come into the house to "feed the pets" and had sat down and fallen asleep. My son looks up at the bedroom window and says, "what the hell is that noise".....it was my husband snoring. My son could hear him with all the windows closed (we have central air).
Everytime you poke, shake, nudge, ask your wife to roll over, you are losing sleep. Everytime you have to get up and move to a different location because of the noise, you are losing sleep. Count sometime how many minutes you are out of bed and how long it takes you to get back to sleep. Subtract that from an 8 hour recommended sleep night and see just how much you lose. My husband not only snores, but he has sleep apnea. I was constantly awake when he slept with me worrying about him and his breathing. He would snore like a crazed maniac then stop breathing for at least 15 to 20 seconds and it was over and over and over. Scared me to death. He technically wasn't sleeping and neither was I. So....he went on a diet and lost 60 pounds which helped some and sleeps sitting up for the most part but has to sleep in a chair because he also has a hip problem (having surgery in the fall). It has been insane.
Sleep? Yes we are both getting more than before and are feeling much better and still love each other more than life. Take some time to research what problems lack of sleep can create for you. One thing of great importance with regard to gretting enough sleep is the fact that your immune system gets boosted each time you do get enough sleep.
Good luck with the snoring thing...I know how miserable it can be to get rest but there are remedies none of which will ruin anyone's marriage.
You should not give a fig what they think . They dont pay your bills or put clothes on your back so why do you care what they think . If they were true friends they would not poke fun or talk behind your back .
No - not at all. I used to get up in the middle of the night and go sleep on the sofa, every flippin' night. My ex snored like a darn train and there was no way I could sleep with him in the same room.
Separate bedrooms would be just fine with me, if the SO snores. I just can't sleep though it.
The media tells us that we have to share a bed, have sex daily, look like a fashion model, an be like Tiger Woods (bi racial), or we are nothing.
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Really? When did they tell us this?
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Yeah I obviously missed that announcement too
Yeah...me too.
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Yes and no. Yes, you and your husband are strange - but not because of the separate rooms gig.
ROFL! Tried to rep ya for that!!
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