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my mom expects certain behaviors from my boyfriend (not quite sure what she wants to see) , she has come to the conclusion that he couldn't care less if Im around or not and will not speak to me about him or about my childhood and if/ why Im messed up. She thinks Im dumb for staying with a man who clearly doesn't love me. Well, it's only been 2 months and we see eachother all the time. What is her problem? Im starting to think some of my problems come from her unrealistic expectaions. Maybe I have low expectations, but if Im happy , how is that a problem? What do you all make of this?
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parents have a way of cluttering up a situation like yours and they have the best knowledge to draw from!
I used the word clutter just because when they get involved intentionally or not it has a way of messing things up sometimes. Some of the best informative direction you can get is from a parent. Sadly we never know that until its to late and we have had an opportunity to prove them right!
Appears to me to be total lack of communication between you and your mom. With that said, if you're happy, as in you are really happy and not putting on appearances of being happy, then that's pretty much it. Yes?
my mom expects certain behaviors from my boyfriend (not quite sure what she wants to see) , she has come to the conclusion that he couldn't care less if Im around or not and will not speak to me about him or about my childhood and if/ why Im messed up. She thinks Im dumb for staying with a man who clearly doesn't love me. Well, it's only been 2 months and we see eachother all the time. What is her problem? Im starting to think some of my problems come from her unrealistic expectaions. Maybe I have low expectations, but if Im happy , how is that a problem? What do you all make of this?
Outsiders can have a lot better and unbiased view of observed relationships than the participants. Just like on this forum here... We clearly see the red flags in other people's relationships while conveniently dismissing the very same ones in ours.
my mom expects certain behaviors from my boyfriend (not quite sure what she wants to see) , she has come to the conclusion that he couldn't care less if Im around or not and will not speak to me about him or about my childhood and if/ why Im messed up. She thinks Im dumb for staying with a man who clearly doesn't love me. Well, it's only been 2 months and we see eachother all the time. What is her problem? Im starting to think some of my problems come from her unrealistic expectaions. Maybe I have low expectations, but if Im happy , how is that a problem? What do you all make of this?
After only two months how did she come to these conclusion?
It can only be from what you are telling her.
I don't even think I discussed my now husband much with my mother until after the 6 month mark.
my mom expects certain behaviors from my boyfriend (not quite sure what she wants to see) , she has come to the conclusion that he couldn't care less if Im around or not and will not speak to me about him or about my childhood and if/ why Im messed up. She thinks Im dumb for staying with a man who clearly doesn't love me. Well, it's only been 2 months and we see eachother all the time. What is her problem? Im starting to think some of my problems come from her unrealistic expectaions. Maybe I have low expectations, but if Im happy , how is that a problem? What do you all make of this?
I think your mom believes you deserve to be treated respectfully. Some times a person can't see the forest from the trees and she does not want you to be unhappy. If you have low expectations learn how to raise the bar. Every woman deserves to be treated by a guy like she is his better half. Listen to your mother. She has acquired wisdom well beyond the years you see in her.
Mothers don`t like for our little girls to have a BF!
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