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A cousin of mine asked me about a week ago to take her and some friends somewhere and that she would give me gas money.
I said yes but forgot that the day in question was a day my girlfriend and I wanted to spend all day together and we already committed to it.
My girlfriend was fine with me going off and hanging out with my cousin and my cousin's friends.
I didn't want to go without her so I asked my cousin if I could bring my girlfriend.
Her response, "I don't know. My friends might be uncomfortable."
Me: Why would they be uncomfortable? It's not as if we are going to be making out or anything like that.
Her: I don't know. I just don't think they're ready for all that.
My cousin herself has experimented with girls and has been going through a really tough time with crushes on girls and girls breaking her heart. However these particular friends don't know about it. I told her that if these are truly your friends, they would know about you liking girls and wouldn't judge you for it.
I asked her to try to see if someone else would take her.
I may still take her but I would have never thought a cousin that was once so supportive of me [she is always saying she wants me to bring my girlfriend to family dinners, I have nothing to be ashamed of for being gay, our family needs to get over any disapproval they have,etc] would say, "Don't bring your girlfriend. My friends will be uncomfortable."
So, am I wrong for not wanting to take her and these judgmental friends somewhere?
Let's see if I can get this straight. They ask a favor of you, then impose conditions on how you may do it. Do I have that right?
I mean, why did you even ask. Just say, "Hey, I'm bringing my girlfriend along, hope you like it." Then it's their turn to deal. After all, you're the one with the car and the driver's license.
Take your girlfriend along. If your cousin is asking a favor of you and then being judgmental, then she's just using you...not appreciating the time and effort it takes out of your day.
Besides, if I had to be stuck in a car full of homophobes, damn right I'd want them to be uncomfortable.
So in summary, please make out with your girlfriend the whole time and then send me pictures, k?
A cousin of mine asked me about a week ago to take her and some friends somewhere and that she would give me gas money.
I said yes but forgot that the day in question was a day my girlfriend and I wanted to spend all day together and we already committed to it.
My girlfriend was fine with me going off and hanging out with my cousin and my cousin's friends.
I didn't want to go without her so I asked my cousin if I could bring my girlfriend.
Her response, "I don't know. My friends might be uncomfortable."
Me: Why would they be uncomfortable? It's not as if we are going to be making out or anything like that.
Her: I don't know. I just don't think they're ready for all that.
My cousin herself has experimented with girls and has been going through a really tough time with crushes on girls and girls breaking her heart. However these particular friends don't know about it. I told her that if these are truly your friends, they would know about you liking girls and wouldn't judge you for it.
I asked her to try to see if someone else would take her.
I may still take her but I would have never thought a cousin that was once so supportive of me [she is always saying she wants me to bring my girlfriend to family dinners, I have nothing to be ashamed of for being gay, our family needs to get over any disapproval they have,etc] would say, "Don't bring your girlfriend. My friends will be uncomfortable."
So, am I wrong for not wanting to take her and these judgmental friends somewhere?
That's kinda funy.
I mean, the whole thing. I was thinking you were a guy then I realized you were a girl. Now I get it.
You just tell your cousin, "I figure it out so I can take you and your friends."
Take your girlfriend along. If your cousin is asking a favor of you and then being judgmental, then she's just using you...not appreciating the time and effort it takes out of your day.
Besides, if I had to be stuck in a car full of homophobes, damn right I'd want them to be uncomfortable.
So in summary, please make out with your girlfriend the whole time and then send me pictures, k?
If it were me I would take my girlfriend with me... Maybe layoff the PDA but she would be with me... As for my cousin and her friends they have options... its called the bus!!!
Take your girlfriend along. If your cousin is asking a favor of you and then being judgmental, then she's just using you...not appreciating the time and effort it takes out of your day.
Besides, if I had to be stuck in a car full of homophobes, damn right I'd want them to be uncomfortable.
So in summary, please make out with your girlfriend the whole time and then send me pictures, k?
The obvious double-standard. Same sex activity between men = icky, unnatural, and gross. Between women = "hot" and desirable.
If I were PurpleLove, I would be insulted by this post.
The obvious double-standard. Same sex activity between men = icky, unnatural, and gross. Between women = "hot" and desirable.
If I were PurpleLove, I would be insulted by this post.
So everyone must have the same turn-ons as you do? THAT is how you think? Others must believe what is acceptable is what YOU find to be so? Sorry bub. Ain't happening.
So everyone must have the same turn-ons as you do? THAT is how you think? Others must believe what is acceptable is what YOU find to be so? Sorry bub. Ain't happening.
As a gay man, I am much more privy than you ever will be to the way in which these things work.
A cousin of mine asked me about a week ago to take her and some friends somewhere and that she would give me gas money.
I said yes but forgot that the day in question was a day my girlfriend and I wanted to spend all day together and we already committed to it.
My girlfriend was fine with me going off and hanging out with my cousin and my cousin's friends.
I didn't want to go without her so I asked my cousin if I could bring my girlfriend.
Her response, "I don't know. My friends might be uncomfortable."
Me: Why would they be uncomfortable? It's not as if we are going to be making out or anything like that.
Her: I don't know. I just don't think they're ready for all that.
My cousin herself has experimented with girls and has been going through a really tough time with crushes on girls and girls breaking her heart. However these particular friends don't know about it. I told her that if these are truly your friends, they would know about you liking girls and wouldn't judge you for it.
I asked her to try to see if someone else would take her.
I may still take her but I would have never thought a cousin that was once so supportive of me [she is always saying she wants me to bring my girlfriend to family dinners, I have nothing to be ashamed of for being gay, our family needs to get over any disapproval they have,etc] would say, "Don't bring your girlfriend. My friends will be uncomfortable."
So, am I wrong for not wanting to take her and these judgmental friends somewhere?
Tell your cousin to get a car. This isn't your problem
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