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haha, no, I am not looking for $ or to tear apart another relationship. Definitely not my character. There is tension between us that has been there since day one, BUT I was dating someone for 4 years and broke it off for other reasons and then my boss started to show more interest. He was already in his current relationship during all of that.
I think your particular situation calls for understanding the consequences of becoming entangled with this man, since there are other prevalent factors involved, such as your working relationship. If you are willing to compromise that relationship and accept that it may deteriorate, then I see no reason why you shouldn't proceed with the relationship. However, even in that instance, I would advise you not to become involved with him until he has broken it off completely with the other person.
Judgments and shame is exactly what's holding people back and causing them distress and anguish. It is wrong, and I can't believe you would advocate it.
Well, Gov. Sanford tried to disregard judgement and shame.
Judgments and shame is exactly what's holding people back and causing them distress and anguish. It is wrong, and I can't believe you would advocate it.
I guess we have a fundamental disagreement. The old agree to disagree I suppose.
Meaning that he didn't let judgement and shame hold him back and cause him distress and anguish. He was happy for 7 days. Now he's in another type of distress and anguish. Which wouldn't've happened had he thought about judgement and shame beforehand.
Judgments and shame is exactly what's holding people back and causing them distress and anguish. It is wrong, and I can't believe you would advocate it.
So...you advocate moving in on another woman's man?
We see the erosion of morality today in the US - that is because of your "judgment and shame" is wrong attitude.
So...you advocate moving in on another woman's man?
We see the erosion of morality today in the US - that is because of your "judgment and shame" is wrong attitude.
I didn't say I advocated it. If you'd actually read my following message, you'd see that. And don't you dare accuse me of the US's moral decay. You are in no place to judge others, no matter how much you think you are. That is not the kind of person I aspire to be.
Meaning that he didn't let judgement and shame hold him back and cause him distress and anguish. He was happy for 7 days. Now he's in another type of distress and anguish. Which wouldn't've happened had he thought about judgement and shame beforehand.
I assume you know the news of Gov. Sanford?
I don't agree with his actions, of course, but I will not judge and condemn this man.
Why should she have "shame" over someone/something she doesn't even know about firsthand?! I didn't see where she's met the woman and knows for sure that she is seriously committed to that relationship. It may be a casual thing. If "the boss" is interested in the OP, then, what, you think she should just blow it off and encourage him to marry the girlfriend even if his head can be turned by someone else?
So...you advocate moving in on another woman's man?
We see the erosion of morality today in the US - that is because of your "judgment and shame" is wrong attitude.
IF this was a guy she knew at work, I'd just say ask further questions when out and get more of a feeling if she'd be "stealing", or if it was just something like a FWB thing. Almost seems to be the norm anymore, which is funky, but whatever.
Any case, the OP IMO is a bit insane to contemplate this one, it's her BOSS, this isn't some co-worker where it might be awkward if he's not interested outright, or it goes bad later. This is firing material, or otherwise making work about as comfortable as a special seat in the Spanish inquisition.
Less than a good idea even if he outright stated interest and was completely single.
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