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Old 11-21-2011, 07:49 AM
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Originally Posted by 14Bricks View Post
There is no point in getting married if you're going to be living apart. Which further shows me that marriage is more about finances, health care and tax breaks than it is about "being in Love" and finding a "life partner"
Exactly. Relationships where marriage is pursued but there's no physical proximity is the very proof the reason the union is being pursued is for the legal aspects. Which is fine and great, but people should call it as it is, a matter of legal convenience and not some happy horsechit unicorn filled account of looooove across the state lines or some such disingenuous nonsense.

I concur, there's no point in establishing a monogamous relationship, be it legally married or not, in the absence of geographical co location. yeah the economy is fracturing couples left and right, but guess what, life ain't burger king, we can't all have it our way. If neither party is able to be happy in ceding their career for the other's, then that is indicative of two people that need to go their separate ways and find matches that are willing to cede to their careers, recognizing that the mate you find may not be as vocationally achieving as you may want. Again, one can't have the cake and eat it too.

Im staying single, no way Im doing a LDR, let alone a LD marriage. I need physical proximity, I don't need the economic benefits and legal hassle of a remote marriage.

I have a multitude of co workers who pursue their careers here in the middle of nowhere and have their families 150 miles away. Which in the context of distance is not as bad as some of the examples posed here. Still, I think the arrangement sucks. They all do it because of the children and the education aspect, which I respect as a child free man. I still wouldn't put myself in that situation.
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