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I think there is a difference between "not being one's self" and "putting your best foot forward". By being yourself, it means not pretending to be someone different then you really are, with different intrests, different lifestyle, different views etc.
I mean, you can put your best foot forward, but just make sure it's still YOUR FOOT
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I think the author that article is clueless. I think being yourself is harder than it sounds so most people are unable to do it under certain circumstances. They try, but they end up trying to impress and people see through that. I know one guy who's always able to be himself--he's not outstanding looking or rich or anything but he's got the greatest attitude--and he has people come to him. I say hit the delete button on this article and really be yourself. If you don't and you get someone by being something other than, they'll eventually see yourself and it will appear you were being fake. Being yourself is the best tool for weeding out the waste-of-timers.
It's not about putting on pretenses or being someone else, it's about improving yourself to get what you want out of life. If someone wants to be a millionare for example, just "being yourself" ain't gonna cut it. If just being yourself isn't getting you what you want,you have to take a good look at yourself and see where you are lacking.
I don't view relationships with that kind of competitive edge. I agree with another poster that pretenses wear thin, and your true self begins to show, eventually.
Because most people who view relationships as more than just getting someone in the sack don't visit "sosuave.com"?
False.
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Taken for what it is, it's a fascinating principle. If someone is "just being himself", it definitely takes away from the fantasy that most people like to have when they have a purely sexual relationship. After all, a woman who is looking at you as merely a piece of meat probably doesn't want to know that you have a tendency to cry when you see those "Save the Children" commercials on TV.
If, however, you're looking at wanting more than just a couple of hours of hot animalistic sex a week, these things will come out. Being fake doesn't make for a good foundation for a long-term relationship. Aside from which, it gets REALLY tiring to keep up a facade for that long.
Again, this is false. This thread isn't saying you should pretend to be somebody else but rather that you need to hone your skills and qualities with the parameters of your personality. There are very few people out there who figure this stuff out on their own. Most people need help and instructions on how to do this.
Have you ever gone out and actually watched people, especially guys, try to pick people up? Most of them range from marginally ineffective to embarrassingly pathetic. That is why those of us learn how this game works are generally the 10% of the men who do 90% of the ****ing.
You don't have to be somebody else to be desirable, you just have to obtain desirable qualities.
That is why those of us learn how this game works are generally the 10% of the men who do 90% of the ****ing.
Yes, you belong to a special, elite class of man whores. You must be proud. What, with your "Welcome to the club, brother" pronouncements of crude virility.
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