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Old 07-01-2009, 03:16 PM
 
Location: Pittsburgh's 'EAST SIDE'
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Would you tell someone you liked and wanted to persue a relationship with, exactly how you feel about them, or continue to not say anything and hope they catch the clues or say something first.
For a woman is that too bold, or just playing games?

As a woman, NO, but that's just me...
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Old 07-01-2009, 04:16 PM
 
Location: Centro Tejas
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When the time is right, I'm straightforward. I do not play games. That's for insecure women.

I call one or two times, but not more than that. If he doesn't want me, I'd go with someone else.
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Old 07-01-2009, 04:22 PM
 
Location: Southern California
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I say skip the preamble and just ask the guy out. Quick, easy, and the answer to your question is the answer to your "problem".
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Old 07-01-2009, 04:23 PM
 
Location: Arizona, The American Southwest
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Would you tell someone you liked and wanted to persue a relationship with, exactly how you feel about them, or continue to not say anything and hope they catch the clues or say something first.
For a woman is that too bold, or just playing games?
It's always good to be upfront and honest about everything, but when it comes to revealing that you want to pursue a relationship with somebody, that depends on many factors, and the scenario is not going to be the same with every 2 people. Assuming you both like each other, then there's nothing wrong with being upfront and honest about your feelings. For a woman, that's not bold, it's just honest. Just make sure you say it to the right man, who will be good to you.
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Old 07-01-2009, 04:29 PM
 
Location: Rockland County New York
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I don't. If I am not friendly with some one there is really no reason to mention my feelings.
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Old 07-01-2009, 04:48 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I've never initiated, just not my style. But all the men I've been interested in knew I was - or maybe they hit on everyone. *shrug*
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Old 09-14-2009, 08:52 PM
 
Location: Greater Hartford Area
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As a woman I feel as though it would set you up for heartache. I do not care how shy a man is. If he wants you he will tell you. What if you feel more for him then he does for you? And he decides hey why not enjoy this free ride until I get what I really want.
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Old 09-14-2009, 11:19 PM
 
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my, how did i miss this thread when it started.

I used to. ALL the time. and all it did was lead me to heartache. now I don't bother. even when I really want to go out with someone, I won't even bother asking them on a date, because there's a better chance they'll say no than yes.
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Old 09-14-2009, 11:35 PM
 
Location: lala land
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It depends on the situation. It takes me a while to really like someone, so more than likely by the time I am ready to tell him how I feel, we are both on the same page. I think the best thing is not to rush into anything. Make sure you really get to know the other person before you commit to telling him something that you cannot take back.
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Old 09-15-2009, 12:44 AM
 
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Hi, what if the there are complications? Like if both of you are married but then you really like each other. But you don't really want to go further except acknowldege the fact that you both like each other.
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