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Well the truth if terrible would lead to a break-up rather than delaying the inevitable if it is to come. If she wants to leave, why not just leave? Why hang on?
Thats what I said man. Just differently than what your used to methinks. See ya later hon, I'm already moving on. Nevertheless, young and relationships means extra grief and pain. It's tough to move past things, like I said in my other post, things are gonna shake out as they will regardless of any advice. All one can do is hope for the best and get ready for the worst..................
Taking a " 2 week separation" is a nice way to absolve yourself of the guilt of cheating on someone. "I didn't cheat, we were separated at the time"...Sketchy.
Exactly. It's a cop-out. Breaks are also for people who don't want to actually go through the process of breaking up.
Ok, this isn't my issue, but rather my friend's issue. If you want to read what all I went through, just read my threads. Any way....
So he and his fiance have been together for nearly 6 years. They were going to get married on the 6th year they were together. The other day they got into an argument because she went out with her girlfriend's and her ex happened to be there. Well they apparently had a rockin' good time. No sex from what I gather.
She doesn't tell my friend that she was hanging out with her ex. Buuuuuuuut one of the girls that was there with her blurted out that they couldn't believe how much fun they had with those guys. Well, my friend got more than a bit upset. One, she was hanging out and having fun with her ex. Two, she omitted that part of the night from him.
They argue. The next day she wants to seperate for 2 weeks so she can "figure things out." From what I'm told the argument was nonviolent, just a lot of yelling. Neither has been or is prone to physical violence. She was 18 and he was 22 when they started dating. Now they are 24 and soon to be 28 respectively.
My thought is, that she got into a serious relationship way to young. She didn't live the party hard college life style and got a taste of it that night.
Well the truth if terrible would lead to a break-up rather than delaying the inevitable if it is to come. If she wants to leave, why not just leave? Why hang on?
Why did she not? Probably because she did not have the backbone or honesty to do so. She would rather have him find out through other people that her ex is occupying her inner space. Not cool!
Well the truth if terrible would lead to a break-up rather than delaying the inevitable if it is to come. If she wants to leave, why not just leave? Why hang on?
To keep her options open. She wants to explore other options and if they don't work out, she can go back. Also, break-ups are uncomfortable and 2 weeks postpones it and maybe he'll be the one to break-up.
You should stay out of it. Listen, but don't talk bad about her. Let him figure it out. This stuff can ruin friendships.
Having gone through a similar situation I look at it this way. The girl has a bad case of the can't-help-its. If that's what she chooses to do, then so be it. Better for my friend to learn now than later. If that's who she wants to be more power to her. No sense in me judging who she wants to be. It would suck for my friend, but it isn't the end of the world.
Like I told my ex wife, I hope this girl comes to her senses before it's to late and she winds up with 2 kids and a dead beat dad. But again, if that's the life she chooses, well good for her and I hope it makes her happy.
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