What Do You Do When Your Friends Cheat? (divorced, conversation, personal)
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Sounds like someone else is up on a high horse called "I'm such a saint, I forgive EVERYONE - even if I have to sacrifice my own pride and self-esteem!"
Oh please. Give it up. If forgiveness to you is giving up pride, then I pity you. That's number one.
Number 2: what the f***k is thread about? Forgiving someone who cheated on you or staying friends with someone who cheated? I think we are off the topic here. That goes for you too BCreass. It's 2 different conversations. If you want to start a thread on "whether or not you would forgive a person who cheated on you" go ahead.
We are not talking about supporting, we are not talking about covering up, we are not talking about being soft with people who cheat. I WAS TALKING ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT I WOULD STAY FRIENDS WITH A PERSON WHO CHEATED. That's what I was talking about, until this conversation turned into: "then you had never been cheated on"
People who have endured both physical and emotional abuse report that the emotional abuse is far worse.
.....because it is. I don't need stats to prove this. I've been through it myself and honestly, I'd have rather be beaten to a bloody pulp than have my self-esteem and my faith in humanity permanently scarred by someone else's selfish actions.
Oh please. Give it up. If forgiveness to you is giving up pride, then I pity you. That's number one.
Number 2: what the f***k is thread about? Forgiving someone who cheated on you or staying friends with someone who cheated? I think we are off the topic here. That goes for you too BCreass. It's 2 different conversations. If you want to start a thread on "whether or not you would forgive a person who cheated on you" go ahead.
We are not talking about supporting, we are not talking about covering up, we are not talking about being soft with people who cheat. I WAS TALKING ABOUT WHETHER OR NOT I WOULD STAY FRIENDS WITH A PERSON WHO CHEATED. That's what I was talking about, until this conversation turned into: "then you had never been cheated on"
The thread is "What Do You Do When Your Friends Cheat?". All of the discussion I've encountered in this thread so far is 100% relevant, unless a moderator states otherwise.
To answer the question: if any of my friends did such a thing, I would not hesitate to end my friendship with them. A person who is capable of cheating on another human being is not a good person, IMO. You are free to disagree, but I'm just giving you my opinion. I would not want to be friends with a cheater, mainly because I'd never be able to trust them in any way, shape, or form.
p.s. i already replied to this question when DennyCrane asked.
Since I don't feel like scrolling through the dozens of pages in this thread to find your reply to 'DennyCrane', can you not just answer the question, even if it's a one sentence answer?
.....because it is. I don't need stats to prove this. I've been through it myself and honestly, I'd have rather be beaten to a bloody pulp than have my self-esteem and my faith in humanity permanently scarred by someone else's selfish actions.
Did my post sound like I was disagreeing with you? I wasn't.
Allowing an untrustworthy person to remain in your life and do you and everyone you know even more damage is giving up your self-respect, yes.
Hmmm... pity... a word that means contemptuous sorrow; i.e., judgment.
If you were the saint you claim to be, you would have said "I have empathy for you."
I would have "empathy" for the poor soul that was cheated on, not the cheater. I would care far more about the victim, not the perpetrator.
It's not that I am incapable of forgiveness, but I simply would not want to be around someone who hurt the one person that they loved/cared about the most.
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