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Originally Posted by PassTheChocolate
LOL.....now that's original. No one said it was okay. But this is to be expected of the moral klan. If you don't condemn everyone who does it and don't paint everyone's situation with one broad stroke, you're advocating it. Real intelligent.
The worms don't know one headstone from another when all is said and done.
But, I'm not friends with anyone who cheats, or with anyone who even has OTHER friends who cheat. Overlooking a friend's cheating makes it more likely that person will cheat themselves.
I saw your profile pic and you are young. I think if you were suddenly to find out all the people in your life who have had affairs, you would be quite surprised. One of the reasons marriages used to last 50 or more years was due to affairs. It gives men especially an outlet. If you think about it, most people today get divorced. There is no more "till death do us part" but it is okay to switch partners every few years. Frankly, I think the world was a better place when people stayed married and loyal to their families. What I'm saying is that this notion young people have that people fall in love, get married, go to church on Sundays, and live like the Cleavers is pretty idealistic.
Why do people get so bent out of shape about infidelity yet it's okay to get married and divorce over and over and over again?
We get bent out of shape because it's a despicable act that doesn't deserve forgiveness. If you're in relationship already, but want to sleep with someone else, then end the relationship first.
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Originally Posted by That-Guy
Does it get pretty windy up that high on your pedestal?
We're not high on any pedestal. What's sad is how low some people's standards are.
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Originally Posted by Mearth
But, I'm not friends with anyone who cheats, or with anyone who even has OTHER friends who cheat. Overlooking a friend's cheating makes it more likely that person will cheat themselves.
I agree. If my friend cheats, but I overlook it, then I'm basically condoning it. People get away with whatever you let them.
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Originally Posted by sms0511
Damn, then you must have close to no friends at all LOL!
Some of us would rather have no friends than friends we can't respect. I don't have a huge circle of friends, but I'm happy to say that they're all people of good character.
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Originally Posted by DaBeez
Wow. Didnt know so many CD'ers are okay with cheating.
Sad, isn't it? When people can rationalize it or find ways to forgive it, it's no wonder cheating is so common these days.
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Originally Posted by Woof Woof Woof!
Mearth,
I saw your profile pic and you are young. I think if you were suddenly to find out all the people in your life who have had affairs, you would be quite surprised. One of the reasons marriages used to last 50 or more years was due to affairs. It gives men especially an outlet. If you think about it, most people today get divorced. There is no more "till death do us part" but it is okay to switch partners every few years. Frankly, I think the world was a better place when people stayed married and loyal to their families. What I'm saying is that this notion young people have that people fall in love, get married, go to church on Sundays, and live like the Cleavers is pretty idealistic.
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Ah yes, I was waiting for someone to dismiss her opinion as young and naive. Maybe the real problem is that some people become such cynics as they get older that they learn to tolerate immoral behavior. I hope there are more young people out there like Mearth.
Ah yes, I was waiting for someone to dismiss her opinion as young and naive. Maybe the real problem is that some people become such cynics as they get older that they learn to tolerate immoral behavior. I hope there are more young people out there like Mearth.
Also, FYI - I'm not THAT young. I'll be 29 in a month.
I have friends who will take me to the hospital, stay with me, and take me home. I have friends coming out of the woodwork to walk my dog now that my foot is broken. I have friends who invite themselves to celebrate my birthday when I say I'm not doing anything special. I have friends who are more interested in my well-being than my own family is.
You know why? Because they're good people, who know how to treat other people - such as NOT cheating on their partners.
So are you saying that IF they cheated on their partners (not habitual), you would immediately toss them like a bunch of bad salad?
Wow, amazingly that you think that all humans must be as perfect as you are, in order to be granted w/ your "gracious" friendships.
Good friends stick by one another and forgive each other when they make mistakes. But one thing I've noticed both with men and women is that if one person cheats, their friends often excuse them and sometimes even cover for them. I guess I've never understood people who do this. If one of my friends cheated, I don't think I'd ever look at them the same way. I certainly wouldn't be able to respect them and if you can't respect them, why would you stay friends with them? Maybe some of you will say that's too harsh. I don't think so. Who you associate with says a lot about you. One thing I would never do is cover for a friend I know is cheating.
What are your thoughts? Would you cover for a friend who cheated? Would you still be friends with them? How much are you willing to forgive your friends for and what point do you say "this is not the kind of person I feel good calling my friend"?
I try and ply it into a menage a trios if at all possible.
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Well, you're younger than me. BTW, I sent you a DM.
