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Good friends stick by one another and forgive each other when they make mistakes. But one thing I've noticed both with men and women is that if one person cheats, their friends often excuse them and sometimes even cover for them. I guess I've never understood people who do this. If one of my friends cheated, I don't think I'd ever look at them the same way. I certainly wouldn't be able to respect them and if you can't respect them, why would you stay friends with them? Maybe some of you will say that's too harsh. I don't think so. Who you associate with says a lot about you. One thing I would never do is cover for a friend I know is cheating.
What are your thoughts? Would you cover for a friend who cheated? Would you still be friends with them? How much are you willing to forgive your friends for and what point do you say "this is not the kind of person I feel good calling my friend"?
Good friends stick by one another and forgive each other when they make mistakes.
No. They're not supposed to be ditto heads regardless of the situation. When a friend is wrong, I will let him/her know about it. And in case of cheating, definitely won't side with him/her but let know of my opinion on the subject. Something wrong is wrong, and nobody but a good friend is expected to bring it up.
Its not friendship if you can't be honest with your opinion of the person.
Good friends stick by one another and forgive each other when they make mistakes. But one thing I've noticed both with men and women is that if one person cheats, their friends often excuse them and sometimes even cover for them. I guess I've never understood people who do this. If one of my friends cheated, I don't think I'd ever look at them the same way. I certainly wouldn't be able to respect them and if you can't respect them, why would you stay friends with them? Maybe some of you will say that's too harsh. I don't think so. Who you associate with says a lot about you. One thing I would never do is cover for a friend I know is cheating.
What are your thoughts? Would you cover for a friend who cheated? Would you still be friends with them? How much are you willing to forgive your friends for and what point do you say "this is not the kind of person I feel good calling my friend"?
No I wouldn't ever cover for a friend who cheated.Also it would depend on how they cheated/in what way.I'd probably still be friends with them but wouldn't think of them as I once did though.I'd also forgive them as well.
No I wouldn't ever cover for a friend who cheated.Also it would depend on how they cheated/in what way.I'd probably still be friends with them but wouldn't think of them as I once did though.I'd also forgive them as well.
Lighten up, seriously. Good people cheat all the time. You don't have to view them as a nasty disgusting person because they made a mistake.
This is a hard thing...hmm. I definitely told a friend I didn't think it was right they were the "other woman," but I don't know what I'd say if they were cheating on their significant other.
If they asked me about it, I would likely tell them exactly what I thought. But, in my circle of friends, I am not the one you ask for a lovey-dovey, wishy-washy opinion. I will tell the truth, as I see it.
Definately would NOT cover for them and would probably distance myself from them too. If they lack integrity in something as important as their personal relationship (especially if we are talking about a married person) then I don't think I'd want to know them. Probably sounds harsh to a lot of you but its how I feel.
I don't judge my friends for their indiscretions or infidelity. They've never judged me for any of my faults either. I've been friends with these people for most of my life. True friends do not judge one another, turn their backs on one another or cut them out of their lives over something that is none of your business in the first place. But that's just me I guess. You are free to choose your friends in whatever fashion helps you sleep better at night. I imagine your friendships aren't all that deep to begin with if you can cut them out of your life for something like a fling with their SO.
Last edited by Coolhand68; 07-01-2009 at 01:17 PM..
Nope - sorry but I don't agree. Good people do not cheat.
You do realize over 60% of the American population admits to infidelity at least once in their lifetime. I would sure hate to think 160+ million Americans are bad people. Once again, nobody is perfect and move on.
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