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I don't know. I just do. I was told I'm ugly in highschool so many times, that well. Never had luck with guys, etc.
I just feel ugly, I don't know, there's nothing remarkable in my face and sometimes I just wish I'd get that attention. Some women say it's disgusting when men check them out, but I just wish I was that beautiful sometimes. I know beauty isn't the most important thing, but I'm not even remarkable in other things. I'm just pretty average: average brains, average talents, etc. Why do some women seem to have it all? It's not fair.
I have a boyfriend. And he says I'm pretty. But once we talked about porn and such, and he admitted these women have perfect, or near perfect, bodies. He said he thinks there's nothing wrong about appreciating these women's beauty for what they do. I asked how would he feel if I used porn and images of well endowed guys, and told him that these men had ideal bodies, near perfect. He said he'd be hurt. I don't use porn, I just use my imagination, and for some strange reason I only fantasize about him. He still thinks it's no big deal, he accused me of being vain and shallow for worrying about it... he said "these women are probably airheads, dumb and sl***y." He says he doesn't respect them, and that he loves me, but hey they have ideal bodies, and so be it, so what? That even on TV or movies he'll still have the chance of checking out other women. That he loves me, and why is that not enough? I said it has nothing to do with it, but I've always wanted to be beautiful and now I don't feel so special since other women have that privilege in his eyes. He got all upset after that.
It hurts because why do those skanks have the privilege of being prettier or sexier in his eyes? I don't think like that of other guys. Maybe I'm too emotional, who knows, but I just don't think of other men like that, plus I've always prefered the realistic type anyway. I don't know. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, although I love sex and I love trying out new stuff.
But anyway... I hate this. I hate feeling like this. And what's worse is that him and society in general "blame" me: that it's my problem, that it's my low self esteem, blah, blah. I know I should be more confident, but how am I supposed to love my body if images of "perfection" and the ideal (36-24-36, something like that) is everywhere, and the pressure to be thin and busty (which I'm not) is on, etc., etc., is advertised everywhere! I hate having to be this passive woman, just accepting that men have a "right" to ogle, that i's "natural and healthy" to check out better specimens as long as I'm loved, etc.
I know I sound like a nutcase, but it's how I feel and if you don't like it and I make you upset, too bad! I just desperately want to feel beautiful and sexy at least once!
Now, you want a direct answer with a (well intended for your interests) NJ attitude?
Here goes!:
1) KNOCK IT OFF NOWWWW! - THAT IS WHATEVER IS GOING ON IN YOUR MIND TO MAKE YOURSELF THINK YOU'RE UGLY! SAY TO YOURSELF THAT "I'M BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFULLY UNIQUE!"
1A) SAY BYE BYE IDIOT GUY IMMEDIATELY AND TELL HIM TO (WHATEVER ADJECTIVE(S) FITS AT THAT MOMENT)!
2) DON'T EVER LISTEN TO IDIOTS OR ANYONE THAT SAYS OTHERWISE ABOUT YOUR LOOKS OR COMPARES YOU TO SOME OTHER WOMAN/WOMEN!
3) YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL - DO YOU KNOW WHY?? BECAUSE GOD CREATED YOU AND HE DOESN'T MAKES MISTAKES SO EVERYONE IS BEAUTIFUL!
4) NOW LIVE YOUR LIFE TO THE FULLEST AS BEST AS YOU CAN WITH CONFIDENCE!
[quote=Mr.Cat;9588062]Post some pics and let us be the judge of that.[/qu
Mr. cat i'm shocked and appalled...however being an artist im curious too. We all have flaws and insucurites its weither the person sees you for you. Real friends and love ones and boyfriends oversee the bad...only the you they love!
I feel ugly all the time too and have since I was young. I rarely to never feel pretty and have not heard in years that I am attractive. No one mentions it, it just isn't brought up. I am very short, have a very slender body, used to have breasts (34C) and used to have good skin and hair. It's my facial geometry: I just don't have a pretty face. A few years ago I had my nose done thinking it would really help (it didn't & now I need a revision) and have decided if I ever get my finances together to have Botox shot in to my jaw to soften it and make it more oval. Other than that, forget it. I am not getting breast implants, there is nothing I can do about being short, and am going to keep my hair as long as possible with bangs and highlights because that is what speaks to and works for me personally. Shorter hair isn't my thing.
My advice to you is to hold on to your youth whatever you do, even if you don't ever feel beautiful. There is a real basis for physical beauty that some women just don't have and is mostly based on facial features and facial geometry. Don't waste the rest of your life worrying about that. Fix what you can, grow your hair, diet and lose weight if you need to (try the Zone diet), then let it go. Whatever you do, don't let your facial skin fall apart. The minute you turn 30 get a pescription for Retin-A and use it religiously, every day, like your life depends on it. I am using an OTC retinol product and am amazed at what a huge difference is has made. As soon as I can I am getting Retin-A.
Get a microcurrent device and get used to toning your face with electric currents. I will be 39 Thursday and just started using NuFace, the only FDA approved microcurrent device on the market and it has totally changed my life in less than a week. It is a total lifesaver and the biggest beauty breakthrough I have had in years. Really, read as much as you can about it. Welcome to NuFace Cosmetics & Skincare Systems Don't be a skeptic. Microcurrent is for real and has been covered in pretty much all the fashion magazines and was also featured on the Rachel Ray show.
Fashion and beauty magazines offers lots of good advice and are helpful. I read pretty much all of them on a regular basis. Fashion/beauty books have also exploded in the last couple of years; there are a lot of good ones. I like Who What Wear, I Heart Your Style by Amanda Brooks, the Lucky style guides, Harper's Bazaar style book and Style Clinic. Even if you can't figure out your look (I can't and try not to care) you can at least get some good tips on how to build your wardrobe. Even if you are not a physical knock out you should still try to dress nicely. You will get the respect of people who are in to that and the envy of people who are less informed. Carry a good bag (there are tons of cheap ones on line, try Shop Suey-- shopsuey.com) and wear good jeans. I have found some reasonable priced ones at the Limited. They look the same to me as the higher end brands. If you really want to get wild watch re runs of Sex and the City and notice how deliberately accessorized and dressed the women on that show are. The look on that show is not the current moment but it remains relevant and explains why looks are so much more important than they used to be. The SATC make up is also still some of the best and also worth copying. Anyone can look better with a little help. That show really proves that.
I have been involved for many years with a guy who years ago told me I am average. We're more or less not together now and he constantly implies that I am not all that, a lesbian, and is generally very hateful to me. I know what you are going through. He did not accept my rhinoplasty and has been very opposed to mid life fashion makeover. This culture for whatever reason hates ugly and average women. That is why I have decided that youth, skin, makeup and wardrobe is what it is all about. The culture doesn't seem to hate youth as much, especially if it is well groomed and presented. That is the real secret.
If none of this advice works for you, try flower essences. Your emotional state can shift and that can make a big difference. I have had success with the Larch essence for low self esteem. Original Bach Flower Remedies® - www.BachFlower.com
Women are overly critical of themslves,ive seen so many attractive women kill themselves over their looks its insane..
Im not an attractive man and at times it sucks because you hardly ever find a women attracted to you but you learn to live with it and be happy with the type of person you are which is far more important evne if society doesnt look at it that way..
I feel sorry for you. If you think that physical beauty is the most important thing in the world, you have more problems than a low self esteem. Your values are based on shallow, and superficial external artificial looks.
When you can see others, for who they really are, regardless of the outside appearance, you have started your journey to being self actualized, and internal happiness. When you also feel internal self acceptance, based on who you are, not what you look like, you have started loving yourself, and will find happiness.
Think of the people in your life, would you still love them if you were blind? Who would take care of you if you were quadriplegic? If you choose people in your life based on how they look, rather than who they are, you may find your circle of friends very small if you really need to depend on someone some day.
I feel sorry for you. If you think that physical beauty is the most important thing in the world, you have more problems than a low self esteem. Your values are based on shallow, and superficial external artificial looks.
When you can see others, for who they really are, regardless of the outside appearance, you have started your journey to being self actualized, and internal happiness. When you also feel internal self acceptance, based on who you are, not what you look like, you have started loving yourself, and will find happiness.
Think of the people in your life, would you still love them if you were blind? Who would take care of you if you were quadriplegic? If you choose people in your life based on how they look, rather than who they are, you may find your circle of friends very small if you really need to depend on someone some day.
I know what shes saying though in terms of companionship if the oppsoite sex really isnt into you its not a great feeling..
I don't know. I just do. I was told I'm ugly in highschool so many times, that well. Never had luck with guys, etc.
I just feel ugly, I don't know, there's nothing remarkable in my face and sometimes I just wish I'd get that attention. Some women say it's disgusting when men check them out, but I just wish I was that beautiful sometimes. I know beauty isn't the most important thing, but I'm not even remarkable in other things. I'm just pretty average: average brains, average talents, etc. Why do some women seem to have it all? It's not fair.
I have a boyfriend. And he says I'm pretty. But once we talked about porn and such, and he admitted these women have perfect, or near perfect, bodies. He said he thinks there's nothing wrong about appreciating these women's beauty for what they do. I asked how would he feel if I used porn and images of well endowed guys, and told him that these men had ideal bodies, near perfect. He said he'd be hurt. I don't use porn, I just use my imagination, and for some strange reason I only fantasize about him. He still thinks it's no big deal, he accused me of being vain and shallow for worrying about it... he said "these women are probably airheads, dumb and sl***y." He says he doesn't respect them, and that he loves me, but hey they have ideal bodies, and so be it, so what? That even on TV or movies he'll still have the chance of checking out other women. That he loves me, and why is that not enough? I said it has nothing to do with it, but I've always wanted to be beautiful and now I don't feel so special since other women have that privilege in his eyes. He got all upset after that.
It hurts because why do those skanks have the privilege of being prettier or sexier in his eyes? I don't think like that of other guys. Maybe I'm too emotional, who knows, but I just don't think of other men like that, plus I've always prefered the realistic type anyway. I don't know. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, although I love sex and I love trying out new stuff.
But anyway... I hate this. I hate feeling like this. And what's worse is that him and society in general "blame" me: that it's my problem, that it's my low self esteem, blah, blah. I know I should be more confident, but how am I supposed to love my body if images of "perfection" and the ideal (36-24-36, something like that) is everywhere, and the pressure to be thin and busty (which I'm not) is on, etc., etc., is advertised everywhere! I hate having to be this passive woman, just accepting that men have a "right" to ogle, that i's "natural and healthy" to check out better specimens as long as I'm loved, etc.
I know I sound like a nutcase, but it's how I feel and if you don't like it and I make you upset, too bad! I just desperately want to feel beautiful and sexy at least once!
My dear, the biggest sex organ you have is between your ears and under yours scull. Take advantage of it. It doesn't matter what others think, they will think what YOU project. I promise.
my makeover!! my new life thank s to MakeoverTraveL plastic surgery center!!!
Hi all,
my name is Sarah, I am a 28 years old French woman, I live in miami, and this is my story.
I have never been happy with the way I looked. I always tried to live with this feeling saying myself that feeling ugly is difficult, but there are so many things that are far worse.
However, since I was 12 years old I felt ugly and it took total control of my life. I've been struggling my weight all over my life. Everywhere I went, I felt uncomfortable because i always knew that there is someone who talks about me. My obsession was so strong that i made a habit not to look in the mirror too long because i couldn’t tolerate my image....... Every night before I went to sleep my only question was How can I overcome that feeling of being ugly? The worst was it wasn’t a feeling, it was the true. crying myself to sleep was a daily ritual for me.
What made me feel that way was probably my school mates or even my family. There are many external factors that make you feel the way you do. No matter what group I was hanging with, I was always the one without a boyfriend, or I was the only one no one would approach!! Very sad.
I always dreamt to be pretty at least one day in my life. Many people would tell you that beauty comes from inside, but it’s false. inside I’ve always been a beautiful person, always the best friend of all..
Of course beauty does also come from the inside, but many studies have also shown that people are treated better when they look better (unfortunate but true), but for me it was impossible to be pretty, even with makeup, sexy clothes and the right attitude I was unattractive.
One day I was watching the extreme makeover program on TV and I couldn’t believe that such transformation is possible! This is when I understood that there is no ugly people… only poor ones .
All is question of money because with plastic surgery you can solve many of your physical problems, and this is real. you can be an ignorable person and become a very attractive person just few hours after sleeping in an operating room, this is just magic!
Thousands of individuals are increasingly realizing that modern extreme plastic surgery procedures enable anyone to look like whatever they desire, and that shopping for good looks can be as easy as shopping for clothes.
If you have an ugly nose you can change it, no boobs you can choose the size you want, fat excess… liposuction, there is a solution for every problem... The problem is the cost!
To transform my appearance I needed a full face surgery (nose, lips, eyes, chin) and a full body surgery …. Breast implants, liposuction, tummy tuck and buttock augmentation.
In Miami where I live I visited many surgeons and nobody quoted my makeover for less than 40.000$!!!
The costs with a regular surgeon, not a top one, were around:
Nose job: from $4,500 to $6,000
Breast augmentation: from $6,500 to $9,000
Chin reduction: from $4,000 to $5,000
Eyelift canthopexy: $4,000
Lips augmentation: $800
Full liposuction (many areas of my body): from $8,000 to $12,000
Tummy tuck: from $8,000 to $9,500
Buttock augmentation with fat injection : from $4,000 to $6,000
For very long time i was looking for an affordable solution in the US but I didn’t found anything and I really wanted a full transformation in once, I didn’t want to start with my nose and after 2 years to do my boobs and a year later my tummy tuck. No, I wanted all in once.
I was also looking for affordable solutions in France but the costs were very similar. During my last trip in France I met an old friend and she had the same problem : not being a beauty queen… this is the polite way to say Very Unattractive! But when I saw her I didn’t recognize her! She really was a wonderful woman, in my opinion almost a model. I asked her if she had a plastic surgery done and she responded me.. I had had more than one!!!…
She had a nose surgery, boobs, liposuction, tummy tuck, facelift and many other things. When I asked her how she did to pay such amount and who was her surgeon, she just gave me her tip. The best surgeons in the world are in latin America, and the cost of surgery are a fraction of the cost you would pay in Europe or in the US.
She gave me the name of the medical center she went in South America, MakeoverTravel.
MakeoverTravel was the magic hospital!
When she told me the price she paid for her surgeries I couldn’t wait anymore.
On September 2010 I contacted this clinic by mail to program my trip (they have a very nice website makeovertravel. com). First of all you have to fill out a medical form, after that they send you a quote and they put in touch with you with a personal assistant to answer all your questions you may have either by mail or by phone. Once you agree with everything you just have to buy your flight ticket.
The cost of your package is paid after your first consultation with the surgeon (you don’t have to pay anything before arriving there), all the blood tests and health exams are done in the clinic. The surgeons they work with are all Brazilian, top plastic surgeons and members of the Brazilian association of plastic surgery.… and the best was the price I paid for my surgery.
When I was at the hotel I met many patients from all over the world that went through MakeoverTravel for their surgery. The cost are very affordable : I paid $11.000 for my all inclusive package that included:
- Nose job
- Breast augmentation
- Eyelift canthopexy
- Tummy tuck
- Full liposuction on many areas of my body
- Buttock augmentation with fat injection
My package also included:
- Staying at luxury private clinic
- 22 days in a 4**** Hotel (it’s the time I had to stay for my recovery)
- Complete blood tests analysis before surgery
- All medical team fees
- Breast implants
- All the pre and Post-operative consultations
- Local transportation from airport to my hotel and from hotel to all my visits
at clinic
- Bilingual Assistant (I don’t speak Spanish neither Portuguese, so I need a bilingual assistant)
and many others services I don’t remember….
The result is just awesome, the price is a gift, the staff is loving and very attempting, the medical center is beautiful… they just changed my life for $10.000!! For the same results I had to spend at least $40,000 in the US.
Was it worth it? Just take a look at my before and after pictures…. I am definitely a new person !!
My advice is just that : If your appearance hold you back in your career, social life and sex life, don’t lose your time. plastic surgery is, in my point of view, the best solution. If you can’t afford a plastic surgery in your country, nowadays there are many affordable solutions in South America (brazil, Bolivia, Colombia, Argentine ect..). I chose to go with MakeoverTravel and I highly recommend them for their price and the surgeons they work with. for me it was the best deal and it allowed me to travel and discover another culture and people. I didn’t know south America before that and it’s an incredible place with lovely people…a trip that totally changed my life!!
Kisses
Eva
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my makeover!! my new life thank s to MakeoverTraveL plastic surgery center!!!
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