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I don't know what you should do, but I want to acknowledge that your age is a legitimate concern if you want biological children - 40 is already in the risk zone for paternal age effect.
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Originally Posted by sierraAZ
It's all good! Those of us that go for the "butterflies in the stomach" are divorced!
I don't know...I didn't have those butterflies with the guy I settled with and we're divorced. I guess it's a roll of the dice if you're prepared to settle.
I don't know...I didn't have those butterflies with the guy I settled with and we're divorced. I guess it's a roll of the dice if you're prepared to settle.
I think you need both, "butterflies" and a foundation based on practical aspects. But then, I've never been married
I don't know...I didn't have those butterflies with the guy I settled with and we're divorced. I guess it's a roll of the dice if you're prepared to settle.
Have one of those, too. As I've said many times, that marriage was way better and would've lasted had it not been for the step-monster. Well, perhaps it's fair to say "the way he handled her"... If you recall my post about her "zoo"... that's it.
I don't know...I didn't have those butterflies with the guy I settled with and we're divorced. I guess it's a roll of the dice if you're prepared to settle.
Given divorce stats, it's a roll of the dice if you don't settle. Butterflies are no guarantee a relationship will work long term. Some couples find there is nothing left after the butterflies fly away.
Relationships take work and you need to be with someone you can work with. Many cultures arrange marriages and they work. They work because the parties involved make them work. The big question is what does he want out of a relationship. If it's a wife and children, this woman may be it. If it's butterflies, he needs to dump this woman and go butterfly hunting.
I've had two serious relationship in my lifetime. The first I had major butterflies. I still wasn't over him when I celebrated my 7th wedding anniversary BUT he wasn't good for me. I knew that. The butterflies were wrong. My marriage is a better relationship than the one we had all the way around but I've never had butterflies for my husband. IMO, butterflies are overrated.
My brother was a 40 year old virgin on his wedding night for this reason. I don't find this odd at all. In fact, they already have something in common here. Both have a strong enough belief system not to have sex. That's something all by itself in this day and age.
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