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Less self-conscious. I've gradually lost most of my self-consciousness over the years, as I've aged and grown up and become more pragmatic and self-confident. But every great once in a while, it will crop up again. I'd love to be truly totally un-self-conscious. It would be very freeing.
I think a lot of people share the same concerns about how the world sees us. Confidence, assertiveness, shyness... seems to be a common concern for many.
I have those concerns too. I am introverted (no one ever believes me when I tell them this, isn't that weird? but I am very talkative once I feel comfortable.. just not that many folks I feel comfy with) and this doesn't bother me but sometimes I need more self confidence and assertiveness, and I would change that, if I could pick TWO things...
My biggest thing though, is that I am pessimistic and paranoid / anxiety ridden. I wasn't always this way so that gives me hope that it is something I might rid myself of one day. It really does make life crappy. I am always worried about something, no matter how illogical it is to worry in the first place. I remember a me that used to just take life day by day and enjoy all the little moments. These days (and for the past decade or two), I just worry so much that it sucks all the joy out of life. The only time I'm not anxious is when I can completely immerse myself in a book or movie... but you can't do that all day now can you??
It varies from worrying about bills, my kids, the future, getting old, dying, how will I get through school, am I going to pass this test....to imagining I have some horrible illness, brain tumor, heart problem, you name it. The dog gets a case of the runs, I am convinced she's going to die. We have a routine, normal electrical problem, I am lying awake worried about house fire. Ambulance heads in the general direction of my house when I am out driving and the 17 year old is here watching his siblings? I'm suddenly certain one of my children has been seriously injured. Kid cries in the house in pain and is not in my line of sight, I envision a severed finger or worse, when it's just a stubbed toe or finger they slammed in the door.
And yes, I've had both CT scans and full EKG's and physicals and had my doc tell me again and again that I have neither a brain tumor or a bad heart or cervical cancer or any other thing I've imagined that month. And some therapy, and anti anxiety meds (but I can't take because they make me sleepy)...
I don't know. I sure do envy those who are carefree and can let things just happen, or not, and can accept that they can't control everything...
I wish I could care less. Like just let all that stupid, selfish, lazy, hypocritical, and inconsiderate behavior that I see around me in the world go. Instead of letting it make me angry and grow less and less fond of my fellow man every day. The only saving grace is that I haven't let it affect my behavior (I still try to be a good person).
what a odd question, hum.... I assume we all have personality faults that we desire to change. However, this would be a very boring world if we were all the same.
I'd like to remove my ability to be hurt so deeply. I isn't fun to still think back on something that happened years ago and still feel like someone ripped your heart out.
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