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AHHHHH, so its ok for a girl to give up after being turned down , but if a guy does hes a wimp????
Dont you just love our fantastic double standards
Where did I say that?
It's personally easier for me not to even bother with it at all. after being rejected so many times, hell yes i've given up. if someone decides that he likes me enough to ask me out, then I might accept. but if he doesn't want to do it, then no big loss for me.
It's personally easier for me not to even bother with it at all. after being rejected so many times, hell yes i've given up. if someone decides that he likes me enough to ask me out, then I might accept. but if he doesn't want to do it, then no big loss for me.
I was saying you said that girl. Its just that women are finally getting to see dating from a mans perspective. As far as dating, i dont date anymore and it was the best decision I ever made in my life. If i want to pursue something with a woman im interested in I would just say " lets hang out".
It would make things much easier for somebody like myself whos kinda shy and not all that great looking i suppose so i can at least save myself the numerous embarrasments of apprroaching a girl with her friends as she gives me that oh god not this unattractive guy approaching me look before i say a word..
Its hard enough for rejcection in general but can u at least be somewhat nice about it?Allot of women act like if a man their not attracted to tries to talk to them that they should be behadeed for even tryign to approach them..
That pretty much always sucks and makes me want to go into evne more of a shell
In theory... yes; in practice you lose a nice "what if" fantasy having to face a harsh reality... Of course, we compare apples to oranges as always, because some people may just have a slight interest and easily say "next," while others might've invested quite a bit in this thought...
I think it's not fair for the guys to have all the stress when asking out, etc. So after being friends with DH for a while, I started invited him to the theatre, to have coffee, etc. Later I even told him I liked him.
Not to mention that when YOU ask men out you get to pick the ones who are successful and have something to actually offer. Yet 99% of the female population sits passively on the side waiting for prince charming to show up. Of course the people who do show up are guys like me working the system, lmao.
If women were actually more proactive about going after the men they want they would have significantly more success.
Its hard enough for rejcection in general but can u at least be somewhat nice about it?Allot of women act like if a man their not attracted to tries to talk to them that they should be behadeed for even tryign to approach them.
I agree. That's great if you're the type of woman who gets hit on a lot and maybe you take it for granted. But is it too much to let a man walk away with some sense of dignity? These women are pretty cold and heartless.
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Originally Posted by killer2021
If women were actually more proactive about going after the men they want they would have significantly more success.
For once, I find myself agreeing with you and not being offended.
if you know em it might be a good emotional boost. in a new setting, many women will reject an offer to dance if they dont know you, no matter how good you look or dance. its not all about me. see it alot. after about 10 rejections in a new place i start backpeddling.
I've never asked a guy out when I had even the slightest inkling that he might say no. People are easy to read, so's chemistry. Back in my single days, I asked guys out only when it was obvious that there was an interest there...I've always found guys to be pretty obvious. Keeps rejection down. I never just went in all willy-nilly, I made the move when it was pretty much a given that they were gonna say yes.
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