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Originally Posted by TVandSportsGuy
I was sitiing trying to figure why a female who responded to me FIRST who lived 6 hours away actually asked-"Do you travel to Pittsburgh"
Shouldnt she be coming to me first since she made the initial reply to my ad? That's like me replying to someone in California and asking-"how often do you come to Philadelphia?
Why do so many women feel they can reply to a man who lives miles away and expect him to make the first visit?
Anyone agree with me?
I don't think there should be a rule. I saw someone online I liked & I went to MA to meet him (I lived in CA). We didn't hit it off romantically but he came to see me about 8 months later with his daughter. He's married now & we're still online friends.
When we met, if it had been convenient for him, I guess he would have come to visit me, but if we'd "connected" I think he would not have moved to CA. His family is in MA & they're very close knit & extensive. Moreso than my own.
It seems like everytime TVSG gets potential interest, he sabotages it. If he wanted things to work, he'd be more flexible, instead of such a big... baby (to put it NICELY).
Regarding "Hanging Out" From the Urban Dictionary: "Hanging Out" And "Hooking Up"
A term used particularly by promiscuous girls today, which has supplanted the term "dating". Previously, women would go on dates with men where they would get to know the man, and then be returned to their home safely. Now, women "hang out" which means they go to bars or friends houses, drink, pass out and wonder why their genitals hurt the next morning.
Hooking up is selecting a specific time to be with someone such as "We should hook up some time" and then actually meeting some where - can be with friends or romantic interest.
Re: Group Dating. It still has an element of exclusivity - like double dating such as going to dinner with another couple or a "group" of people.
I pretty much figured "hanging out" was a relationship where sex was NOT going to be in the picture--EVER.
My wife and I met through the yahoo personals. I put down I was looking for someone no more than 100 miles from where I lived. She lived 70. I drove to where she lived first. She said she wanted it that way for safety. If she didn't like me or if I was some kind of pervert, she was in familiar territory and could make a quick getaway. I must have behaved myself because we took turns driving to each other's homes almost 2 years while dating and continued to take turns driving back and forth for the first 6 years of our marriage. We're finally in the same house!
TVSG, with the help of modern transportation, people can now venture out of their own village and don't have to marry their cousin. Hop a train and meet a young Philly outside of Philly!
If I can take a 2 hour bus ride down to Venice (and have to cab halfway back) to meet with a whole group of C-Ders, just for the heck of it, you could certainly meet someone outside your comfort zone.
The person wants to know if you are willing to visit them if it gets to that point and they are probably going to be willing to visit you.
Whoever makes the first contact should make the first visit
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