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Unless you're a guy with 9+ looks, you have to do the chasing if you want a date. Those guys, which represent 1% of the male population 18-40, don't need to chase girls because the girls will chase them. (As an aside, probably 1/3 of those guys are gay.) For the rest of us guys, we have to do the chasing.
I do chase. That's part of the fun: the courting phase of dating. You don't want to go overboard, though, because while girls like guys who are aggressive, they also like guys who are confident and don't try TOO hard while chasing. Let them know you're interested, but once in a while don't pick up their calls and give hints that you have other options (other women) if things don't work out. Attractive young women can't stand it when they're not in the driver's seat
I know lots of guys that act like chasing women is A MUST when you're single.
It's as if chasing women is the only reason for being sngle.
What do you guys( and nosey gals) think about this?
I am very fond of (slender and tall)women but I DO NOT chase them, never have never will.
I admit I am flirtatious. I give compliments all the time but maybe that's cause I am used to receiving compliments and/or attention. I don't know about chasing anyone. I don't think I go that far.
As a teenager, I was skinny, shy, and never bothered with women. I used to wish that women would chase me because I was too shy to chase them.
By my late teens 18/19, my workouts gave me a fair body, but I didn’t attract too many women due to my shyness. I do remember that a lot of women that looked to be 40 used to say some rather risqué things to me, but I was far too shy to do anything about it. I still wished that women would chase me.
By my early 20s, I still didn’t chase women, but I no longer had to. I got my wish. Attractive women began hitting on me. I had a sculpted body of modest proportions. I was 6’3” 200lbs with a 32” waist, I had green eyes, light brown slightly wavy hair with natural gold streaks. I was never extremely muscular, but I still sported a nice build. I got a job in a large night club in a city of 50,000, and suddenly hot young busty women wanted me. At the time, I thought it was great! I was a kid in a candy store with an unlimited expense account. As I got older, I realized that I probably threw a lot of good women away, and blew any chances at real happiness.
My late 20s saw mild balding, but I could hide it with haircuts. I still got a lot of women. In fact, I probably had the most at this stage in my life. I was still a club DJ, and I was getting picked up by dozens of 18 – 20 year old women from under 21 nights, as well as a boatload of those from over 21 nights.
After 30, balding quickly made me repulsive to the women I was used to. However, I still took care of myself, so this is when the crazies started chasing me. Usually attractive, but they thought I was some rough gonna kick everybody’s arse type of man. They always told me how I’d look so much tougher if I got tats and piercings, but tats, piercings, and women that want tough men were never my thing.
After 30, I didn’t have a steady girlfriend, but rather a series of very short relationships with many never going beyond the first date.
After 40, I took care of myself off and on, so I could be stocky, or lean and muscular. By this time, the women’s appearance dropped off sharply, but I still found myself attracting at least one different woman a week. It was at this time that I began wishing that women didn’t want me because not only were all the women I was attracting physically repulsive, they were nutters as well.
Now that I’m in my mid 40s, I wish that women would just figure out that I am no longer interested in them. I get ill favored plumpers in their early to mid 20s that are just smitten with me. Nasty ghetto girls that are at least 3x my own weight that think life just won’t be complete unless they have me. Then there are the married women that fall between 35 – 50 years of age that think I’ll make them happy, I’m so understanding unlike their husbands, add nausea.
I wish I was like the men I hear complaining about how women don’t chase them. I wish I had to chase women! We are talking about women, so that includes all of them! My days of having drop-dead gorgeous women flock to me ended in my mid to late 20s. I’m sick and tired of crazy, fat, and ugly women that think that they just can’t live without me. I’ve tried it all. I tell them I’m gay, I’m married, or I beat women. Even with statements like that, many women that chase me think that they can change me, “Oh it will be different with me.” Tell me that’s not a clear indicator that they’re crazy…
If women aren’t chasing you, be glad! Remember to be careful of what you wish for, you just might get it! I have never chased women. I think it has to do with pride. I will not lower or humble myself for any woman, and when I meet a woman that thinks that she’s gold because she’s attractive and she thinks that all men should bow down in worship, I don’t even give her the time of day. There were just too many out there throughout my life that were willing to throw themselves at me, so why bother chasing them?
Now that I’m no longer interested in women, life’s become simple again. I just wish the crazies would let me alone.
I didn't read the entire thread, but my take on this is if your priorities are somewhere else, then I can understand you not actively looking. However, if you're pretty set in life and you aren't looking for someone, then don't expect her to fall in your lap.
Also, if you wait for women to show interest in you, then you're only taking what's being offered. Why limit yourself?
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Originally Posted by Jay100
I admit I am flirtatious. I give compliments all the time but maybe that's cause I am used to receiving compliments and/or attention. I don't know about chasing anyone. I don't think I go that far.
That's not being flirtatious. Pulling on her pigtails and calling her names is being flirtatious
Chasing women is what a man is supposed to do. If you're single and NOT chasing women, you're gay, in which case you should be chasing men. Seriously, what else is there in life other than having sex?
Chasing women is what a man is supposed to do. If you're single and NOT chasing women, you're gay, in which case you should be chasing men. Seriously, what else is there in life other than having sex?
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Originally Posted by StaggerLee22
If your single and you dont chase women, I'm pretty sure your gay.
either that or the single guy has a helluva porn stash
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