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Old 07-14-2009, 03:25 PM
 
Location: Monterey Bay, California -- watching the sea lions, whales and otters! :D
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STT Resident : My answer is absolutely yes. Over many years I've dated a few men missing some parts - one with one arm, another with one leg, another missing half of one finger and another who lost a testicle in an accident. Personalities always turned me on over physical attributes although I never liked extremely thin or very overweight men or overly hairy men or men with bad teeth - or brainless twits!
Wow, you sound like me. I am the same as you -- I am very turned on by the personalities and a good sense of humor. My favorite (although now deceased )boyfriend was a guy whom I met in my twenties and we had a huge love affair -- almost got married (long story and distance as to why). He was one of the most intelligent, fun, lively, talented (he was a musician) people I had ever met. He had a "withered limb." (That means that the arm/hand is not completely formed -- in his case his hands had fingers the length to the first knuckle, his hand was smaller, and his arm didn't get to actual size until up to below his elbow.) I actually didn't even notice it at first. I noticed his lively wit and personality -- not to mention he was really cute! He was something else!! Love of my life!

He was very popular, too, very charismatic, and many women adored him. I think that if you have the complete personality package, then a minor limb or two (no, seriously) won't matter. Of course, I do think that women are probably more tolerant in that way as they are more into the entire package, not mainly looks. I think most guys would have a hard time with it.

I don't think anything of guys who have lost a finger or two in some accident -- big deal. Lots of guys play around with saws and stuff, and, boom, there goes the finger(s)!

It really depends on probably each person's own particular stereotypes, personalities, and what their priorities in a relationship are. For me, I will never forget this guy -- I cried so hard when he died a few years ago (cancer), and I still have his photo, to this day, on my desk. I didn't marry him, but I should have because he really was the love of my life.

 
Old 07-14-2009, 03:32 PM
 
Location: Tucson, AZ
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Some limbs are more valuable than others. True, I might date a guy who is missing fingers, but I certainly wouldn't DANCE with a guy who is missing a leg.

(Nor would I date OR dance with a guy who is missing some teeth!!!)
Have you ever seen the video of the cop who chases down a suspect and detains him, and then you find out he had a prosthetic leg? It was on those Cop shows on TV quite a bit.

I think if a cop can run down a fast criminal with a fake leg, someone mightcould learn to dance with one!
 
Old 08-10-2009, 05:21 PM
 
Location: Center of the universe
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Some limbs are more valuable than others. True, I might date a guy who is missing fingers, but I certainly wouldn't DANCE with a guy who is missing a leg.

(Nor would I date OR dance with a guy who is missing some teeth!!!)
Watching Rio Carnaval a few years ago, I saw this guy in the middle of one of the samba schools boogiein' down the streets with one leg. Didn't miss a beat and was in perfect sync with the hundreds of other dancers.
 
Old 08-10-2009, 05:25 PM
 
Location: southern california
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ron by any chance are you talking about yourself? i did not know about the military service or injury.

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Old 08-10-2009, 05:25 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, TN
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he is missing a limb.


What would you do? Would you consider dating the guy? Mind you, this guy has a fantastic personality.


You can choose what limb he's missing. ( Nothing vulger. Keep it clean)


Example- He lost 7 fingers while he was in the Military. He was a bomb specialist. One day he was not so lucky.

Could you deal with a guy with 7 nubs and 3 fingers?

As long as it was my favorite "limb" then of course I would consider dating the guy!
 
Old 08-10-2009, 05:30 PM
 
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well if you truly like him then i would say go for it looks dont matter but that would be very hypocritical of me considering in society looks are very important. ive never been in your situation so i would know but why not? what do you have to loose?
 
Old 08-10-2009, 05:49 PM
 
Location: CA
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I have to be honest: missing limbs freak me out a bit because I have a fear of losing one myself. I suppose if I could get past the initial freaked out part then I might consider it.
 
Old 08-10-2009, 05:54 PM
 
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Not a problem. If he has no issues about it, why should I? It also tells me he has gone through alot in his life, and has overcome.
 
Old 08-10-2009, 06:06 PM
 
Location: Sherman Oaks, CA
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If he wasn't psychologically messed up from losing a limb, then I wouldn't mind dating him. It would certainly take some getting used to, but really, it wouldn't bother me.
 
Old 08-10-2009, 06:13 PM
 
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Sure, I don't care about one limb. Now, if he were missing all of his limbs, well, that could get difficult.
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