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Well, kind of my last thread since I am driving back to Cali this Friday the 17th and I don't know how long it would be until I get internet service going, I wanted to start my last thread while still in the east coast.
Let's say you and your SO go through a series of issues where trust is at stakes. How do you accept what happened and begin trusting your SO again? Do you just stop mentioning it or do you ackownledge it and try to forget about it?
I would go to counseling....with him/her....b/c things could come out that will help you both understand each other and it will also teach you both how to communicate, by listening to each other and not taking what upsets you both, as a personal attack against your characters.
We all have flaws, we all make mistakes, and we all must really listen to our mates when they say to us, "You hurt my feelings because you did this or that". It doesn't mean you are a horrible person, it means that something you did, hurt them, and together, lets figure out how we can avoid that from happening again. And remember, it's not so God awful to say, "Yanno, I might be wrong", but she must be able to do the same, you both must be fair...but a marriage counselor might help you both express feelings much better which might repair the trust issues on both side.
Sometimes we are so unaware that our actions or words hurt others, b/c that's how we've been doing it all our lives, ever since we were children...and like someone said, when you love someone, that means great care for the hearts of others.
Perhaps they don't mean to intentionally hurt your feelings, but if left go, this small stuff can lead to big stuff and that is when resentment sets in and slowly starts to decay a relationship.
Let's say you and your SO go through a series of issues where trust is at stakes. How do you accept what happened and begin trusting your SO again? Do you just stop mentioning it or do you ackownledge it and try to forget about it?
I can't. I've tried to regain trust back, before, in former relationships, and it just wouldn't work. Every time there was a major disagreement or argument, I'd bring stuff back up and throw it in his face. So, what's done is done, in my case. Once you break that trust. Its all but over.
Have a safe trip Mr. Cat.. Hope you and the Mrs can work things out.
As far as trust goes I do agree with the marriage counselor recommendation. IMHO.. Trust once lost has to be earned back. You don't forget.. you just learn to let it back in a little at a time
I don't know whether you're trying to be sarcastic or not but frankly, I don't give a shyt about what you think about my life. Have a nice day!
Senor Gato!!!!! You going to leave me to keep all these hard headed women in line all by myself????????? Seriously my friend. I wish you the best of luck and I hope it works out however you wish it to!!!!!
Senor Gato!!!!! You going to leave me to keep all these hard headed women in line all by myself????????? Seriously my friend. I wish you the best of luck and I hope it works out however you wish it to!!!!!
I must be missing something, but, why would you be splitting up if you love each other? That makes zero sense
Oh yes you are!!
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Seriously my friend. I wish you the best of luck and I hope it works out however you wish it to!!!!!
