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Hypothetical situation/question. Does not relate to me in any way. Just curious on your thoughts because a friend of mine encountered a situation similar to this recently.
A man the age of 39 years old is interested in you. You work hard and are financially stable and have a nice place. The man works but is not as financially stable - lives in a trailer home - lives paycheck to paycheck. But he seems sweet. He would like to go out with you and asks you out on a Tuesday for a Saturday night and adds, "because that's after he gets paid and will have the money to take you out after it clears the bank after a deposit on Friday." The man refuses to allow you to pay for anything - he is not the go dutch type.
- Your thoughts on a man that says to to you?
- Are you turned off by him after he says this to you?
- Any other thoughts welcomed.
Hypothetical situation/question. Does not relate to me in any way. Just curious on your thoughts because a friend of mine encountered a situation similar to this recently.
A man the age of 39 years old is interested in you. You work hard and are financially stable and have a nice place. The man works but is not as financially stable - lives in a trailer home - lives paycheck to paycheck. But he seems sweet. He would like to go out with you and asks you out on a Tuesday for a Saturday night and adds, "because that's after he gets paid and will have the money to take you out after it clears the bank after a deposit on Friday." The man refuses to allow you to pay for anything - he is not the go dutch type.
- Your thoughts on a man that says to to you?
- Are you turned off by him after he says this to you?
- Any other thoughts welcomed.
Sure guys, chime in. I know you wanna!
He might be okay. 1. He grasps the fact that he asked her out and therefore should pay - respect. 2. He is upfront as to why the date has to be on Saturday - honesty. 3. He is not intimidated by the apparent difference in their financial positions - confidence.
- Your thoughts on a man that says to to you?
- Are you turned off by him after he says this to you?
- Any other thoughts welcomed.
Sure guys, chime in. I know you wanna!
-I think he's foolish and/or unfortunate and I am not interested.
-I am turned off.
-I like cheese and crackers, preferably pepperjack and maybe some triscuits.
He might be okay. 1. He grasps the fact that he asked her out and therefore should pay - respect. 2. He is upfront as to why the date has to be on Saturday - honesty. 3. He is not intimidated by the apparent difference in their financial positions - confidence.
He might be okay. 1. He grasps the fact that he asked her out and therefore should pay - respect. 2. He is upfront as to why the date has to be on Saturday - honesty. 3. He is not intimidated by the apparent difference in their financial positions - confidence.
I'd tell your friend to give him a chance...
I agree. Many important traits are apparent.
A lot of people say how we should stop putting so much emphasis on looks, because you can really develop a great relationship if you look beyond the obvious, and I agree, and I also think the same concept applies to financials as well. Personal interaction is really the thing to pay attention to.
Last edited by SeaOfGrass; 07-17-2009 at 10:12 PM..
Reason: Add'l thoughts, as usual...(will she *ever* shut up?)
Hypothetical situation/question. Does not relate to me in any way. Just curious on your thoughts because a friend of mine encountered a situation similar to this recently.
A man the age of 39 years old is interested in you. You work hard and are financially stable and have a nice place. The man works but is not as financially stable - lives in a trailer home - lives paycheck to paycheck. But he seems sweet. He would like to go out with you and asks you out on a Tuesday for a Saturday night and adds, "because that's after he gets paid and will have the money to take you out after it clears the bank after a deposit on Friday." The man refuses to allow you to pay for anything - he is not the go dutch type.
- Your thoughts on a man that says to to you?
- Are you turned off by him after he says this to you?
- Any other thoughts welcomed.
Sure guys, chime in. I know you wanna!
Did someone say CREDIT CHECK! I am sorry but I am a believer that people should be on equal ground if they have decided to date eachother.......it cuts down on a lot of problems down the road.
Money problems have broken up many relationships. Therefore I own a home.........he must own a home or at least have the good credit to purchase one should we decide down the road to get married. The other thing is that if he is living from paycheck to paycheck.......I would be thinking to myself hmmm maybe this man does not know how to manage his money or what is the reason that he is living from pay check to pay check........then if that is the case I would not want to be bothered. Life is complicated enough nobody needs to have an extra project to handle........usually someone like this is looking for a SUGAR MOMMY!
Would a man like this eventually hold you back? If he is living paycheck to paycheck at his age (not paying child support) - you really won't have nice vacations together eventually or to go to nice places (he's basically maxxed on his money making potential), so maybe YOU would most likely have to pay for a vacation or getaway if you wanted one together since all his extra funds go into inexpensive dates to take you out and his bills. . . and if you want kids one day, you survive if you have to leave your job for a while and live on his very limited income - IF things worked out. I believe she said what he pays on his trailer rental land (is that right, I have no idea, I don't live in one) - is $400 or 500/mo - and he is still struggling/broke.
So while "Respect - Honesty - and Confidence" are becoming traits in a man. . . at what point to financial situations come into play and start affecting how you see this man before you start feeling like you will have to carry him so you do not feel like you are missing out on things you like to do and enjoy?\
Myself - I am stable and have to date a financial equal or someone that exceeds mine.
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Nice, sweet guys are hard to find!
