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it actually hurts the ego too i swear! on match i have all recent pictures of me that are full length, up close, whatever, so that they accurately portray me. i talk to a guy on the phone or online and we have good conversations. as soon as we meet, its like the date is over in less than an hour and a half.
Yea unfortunately I have been there too. We talk for hours on the phone and get along great but then when we meet you can tell they cant wait to leave. You just have to remember that there is someone out there that will be attracted to you and everything will mesh. I know that I am attracted to certain girls with certain looks so dont take it personally.
Like someone mentioned in another post find a country guy which isnt entirely wrong. SOmetimes I think a lot of the men and women here in California do have attitudes even though I have lived here most my life.
The girl I met from EHarmony is a country girl from down south and does have different priorities than some of the women I have met here.
If you think it is bad in LA try coming down here to OC.
Update: Any by the way I just looked at your picture and you are gorgeous!!! The bad thing about this is that many guys will be after one thing especially off the dating sites so be careful
Well, many of us think the concept of "dating" sucks regardless of the location.
Since you're young, good-looking, have always been local, have no kids (I assume), and live in a large city, I have hard time understanding why you'd have that much trouble... Perhaps your standards are too high or something in your approach turns men off.
I dont understand why there is a problem either. It sounds like she talks on the phone and they get along. She has the looks so the actual date shouldnt have any surprises. Just need to take the time and meet guys and be patient. The right one will come along.
Well, many of us think the concept of "dating" sucks regardless of the location.
Since you're young, good-looking, have always been local, have no kids (I assume), and live in a large city, I have hard time understanding why you'd have that much trouble... Perhaps your standards are too high or something in your approach turns men off.
i have been told i have high standards. i have no expectations, but i do set standards. i never say this though to the guy in an obnoxious or bitchy way though. my mother and i were talking and she basically said find the first decent guy, and if it doesnt work out, you just stop seeing him.she then added unless i lower my standards, i will end up alone.
i do not agree with this at all, however if being alone means i just never found the right person for me, than so be it. id much rather be alone than with someone i really am not that into.
it might be my approach. i have no idea what i do that turns men off though. i ask them about themself, i am friendly and confident, no clue. with how i dress, i definitely have my own style and that could be off putting. i dress kind of vintage/thrift store/urban. i feel like men here only want a woman who looks and dresses like this:
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It's not you, it's not them. It's just right timing and right personalities. Dating in trendy metro areas is doubly tough though; lots of shallowness. Also, online dating is a problem. The person can sometimes "create" you from your profile and emails and then you are not like the person they "created" when you finally meet up resulting in a loss of interest.
Do what you like to do, be open to meeting someone, and accept that there's nothing wrong with, and one can be happy and fulfilled, being single.
When will your grad studies be over with? I think that you'd do just fine if you moved to my area. I've heard that in the LA area, people are more into dating those with perfect 10 looks and wearing tight skimpy clothes.
Maybe instead of talking about your standards when you first start dating you should just talk and interface with the guy and see how he is. You will sense whether he is the right person for you after awhile. Im not sure any guy is going to really appreciate a women that sets these rigid standards that he may not feel confident that he meets all of them.
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LA is incredibly materialistic and shallow for the most part but there are good women, they are just much harder to find than in the rest of the country. It is what it is and you have to try a lot harder.
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