Have You Ever Dated Someone With No Ambition? (girl, children, romantic)
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I don't know if lack of ambition would really bother me as long as the person was happy with themselves and their life and were independent. Some people don't feel the need to be overachievers or even achievers and that's okay. The problems, for me, would arise from someone's goals (or lack of goals) not meshing with mine.
Plenty of people have ambition but probably few have enough skillz to execute. I would rather have somebody with realistic goals, who represent themselves realistically, and who actually reach those goals.
And what exactly did you want her to do? Reinvent the hot water?! Learn to dance tribal dances?!
What's with all this "ambition"...?! If somebody has a decent education and a decent job paying him decent money, he's fine with me. I feel the same way about myself.
I love this story and have posted it before. Granted, there is a slight difference between fishing for fun and fishing for a living (the safety net is obviously missing), but it's essentially the same. Only that the fisherman has had a nice, easy, and fulfilling life all along whereas the big-time businessman has wasted most of his in the rat race. I always get some perspective when I go down to Mexico. All it takes for poor people there to have fun is to park their trucks somewhere, play some music, drink some beers, talk, laugh, and dance. More than can be said about most of us pecking on our keyboards pursuing "goals" and "ambitions"!
I've talked about this before. It's sad for me to observe when I'm there how the nice restaurants on the beaches are full of those of us with "ambitions." They're the ones with the empty eyes, those having no conversations, and those splitting credit cards after "romantic" dinners. Would be nice if the locals who know how to have fun can afford to be there instead of these "ambitious" zombies wasting the ambience.
Every time I hear the story of the fishermen, I can't help but wonder when the fisherman last saw a dentist and if he still has teeth. It's a good story only if proper medical and dental care are available to him.
I thought of this thread after reading another on here. I've dated guys without ambition before, and being that I am the opposite, I never could understand why someone would not want to try harder in their life. After going through some very frustrating dating situations with guys like this, I could never go through it again.
So the question is, have you ever dated someone like this? How did you deal with it, and what did you learn from it?
I dated a guy who was a waffler. He wasn't unambitious, but he had no idea what to do with himself. I was in college; he dropped out, re-enrolled, changed majors, dropped classes. He hated his job, so he quit and found another, then quit and went back to the first job. He did that two or three times. He just had no direction. That wasn't much of a problem between us romantically, because I cared for him very much, but over the years we just became different people on different paths. We eventually broke up.
I still don't understand him. He got married a year or two ago, sold his condo, and spent nine months traveling the world. That was his dream and apparently hers too, so they were made for one another. I just remember his Facebook status when he returned: We're back! No jobs, no money, no place to live! And to him, that's a big adventure. (That's so not me.) I think they live in L.A., working in film and living the bohemian Burning Man art scene life.
I thought of this thread after reading another on here. I've dated guys without ambition before, and being that I am the opposite, I never could understand why someone would not want to try harder in their life. After going through some very frustrating dating situations with guys like this, I could never go through it again.
So the question is, have you ever dated someone like this? How did you deal with it, and what did you learn from it?
Yes, I have done it.
You deal with it by getting out of it and never doing it again.
Be aware, though, that what I think having ambition means may differ from what someone else thinks having ambition means...you might be with a guy who thinks he has ambition...just not enough for you.
I am not sure I have ever met a chick who I thought was "unambitious" enough to affect a relationship. It is usually some other factor that affects the relationship more than how ambitious a person is.
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