what is 1 thing you learned about relationships you didnt know when you were younger? (lover, gays)

[Oildog]

I didnt realize how evilly competitive women were against each other.

[VBmom]

The best advice I ever recieved from someone (and I did not listen at the time) was that everyone should be emotionally and financially independent for at least 3 years before they even think about getting married. It came from a college professor that I was very close to. I didn't listen. I went straight from my Daddy's credit cards to my first husband's. If only I had listened, I would have saved myself 10 years of a terrible marriage and my oldest two kids the pain of watching their parents go through a divorce.

After my divorce, I did just that. I spent 3 years single, working and raising two kids. I remarried over 9 years ago and have never been happier.

[sportsfangal]

I learned that if the guy isn't treating me well, being involved in the relationship, being attentive and respectful, to DUMP HIM!!!! I wish I had done that sooner with a guy I dated a long time ago. I was with him 4 years, although it was really a one-sided relationship.

Originally Posted by LeavingLA2010

i probably could have made that a shorter title. oh well.

anyway i didnt realize until recently that just because a guy is flirting with you, doesnt mean he is interested. it is very frustrating, but i learned not to take flirts seriously at all. i didnt learn it until i asked out this guy in my grad program. he had flirted with me a few times and even once said something like "would you ever go out with a mexican guy?" and i took that as a sign he was interested. he wasnt.

[FBJ]

I learned that relationshp benefit WOMEN

[Curmudgeon]

I learned that they won't necessarily last!

[FBJ]

Originally Posted by MMichelle

This is the best tread I've ever read on CD. The posts are wonderful.

For me, the one thing I've learned ... There is no prince charming. No white horse and no "equal" partner. No one will save you. No matter what cosmo mag says, you can't have it all.

Shame the women in Philadfelphia don't know that

[Sunnydee]

I've learned that talk is cheap. People will say anything to get what they want.

[DennyCrane]

Originally Posted by sportsfangal

I learned that if the guy isn't treating me well, being involved in the relationship, being attentive and respectful, to DUMP HIM!!!! I wish I had done that sooner with a guy I dated a long time ago. I was with him 4 years, although it was really a one-sided relationship.

This is a hard lesson to learn because you always think if you give that person just a little more time, they'll change. Of course, it never happens. I wasted a lot of time and energy on a woman who did this to me. I wish I had moved on sooner.

[AliceT]

Never give a man a hot pink ANYTHING.

[cricket_factor]

"Relationship" is a hotly contested word. You may think you're both in the relationship together. He may think he gets together with you and hangs out.