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Old 07-21-2009, 12:33 AM
 
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i am always intrigued by men that are worldly, cultured, and are capable of having spiritual and intelligent conversations!

anyway i am a grad student and this has been the 5th week of the session. since last week, i have been talking to this guy that gets there early (i get there early as well). we had a good conversation last week about russian literature. at first when he brought it up in conversation i was shocked thinking, wtf? how does it know i like russian lit?! i then remembered when we had to do class introductions and i said i enjoy russian literature. we spoke about that, philosophy, etc. when that class was over, he said bye (i know meaningless, but most people dont say goodbye anymore unless it is to someone they know well it seems).

today we spoke about theology, what it is like living in other countries, culture, and things like that. it was the best discussion i have had with someone in a long time.

i am unsure if he is interested as he appears to be a friendly guy and is inquisitive in class and asks a lot of questions.
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Old 07-21-2009, 01:07 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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Shoot, and here I thought you got your crush last night!
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Old 07-21-2009, 02:21 AM
 
Location: The Mango Tree
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He may be interested... he may not.

You said that he's a very friendly and interactive guy so obviously it's harder to tell if he's giving you signals when he's outgoing with everyone.

You have 4 options:

1. Ask him out.
2. Wait to see if he asks you out.
3. Spin the conversation into where you guys plan to do something together. (Ex: You/Him: "I can't wait to see that new exhibit at the Getty Museum! I read an amazing review on it last night." You/Him: "I've been planning to go see that too! It looks really interesting." Both in unison: "Let's go together!") Okay, so hopefully not as generic and cheesy but you get the gist.
4. Take the conversation to a new level and make it personal! Life, love, sex, hopes, dreams, the whole shebang - and see where it goes.

Best of wishes! Don't you love a fresh crush? There so much fun lol!
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Old 07-21-2009, 02:52 AM
 
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He may be interested... he may not.

You said that he's a very friendly and interactive guy so obviously it's harder to tell if he's giving you signals when he's outgoing with everyone.

You have 4 options:

1. Ask him out.
2. Wait to see if he asks you out.
3. Spin the conversation into where you guys plan to do something together. (Ex: You/Him: "I can't wait to see that new exhibit at the Getty Museum! I read an amazing review on it last night." You/Him: "I've been planning to go see that too! It looks really interesting." Both in unison: "Let's go together!") Okay, so hopefully not as generic and cheesy but you get the gist.
4. Take the conversation to a new level and make it personal! Life, love, sex, hopes, dreams, the whole shebang - and see where it goes.

Best of wishes! Don't you love a fresh crush? There so much fun lol!
i tried being subtle and did #3. it kind of backfired actually lol.
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Old 07-21-2009, 03:55 AM
 
Location: The Mango Tree
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i tried being subtle and did #3. it kind of backfired actually lol.
Ah, how? What's your definition of subtle?

I hate when the best of plans go wrong! Let's see if we can actually get this to work to your advantage lol!
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Old 07-21-2009, 04:41 AM
 
Location: Bronx, NY
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He may have an interest in you. Just keep talking to him normally. Soon you will find out.
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Old 07-21-2009, 07:17 AM
 
Location: FL
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How about just being friendly with him and get to know things about him. Don't look at it as trying to get a new potential love interest but look at it as making a new friend.

That way you can nibble around the edges to find out if he is really interested in you or if he has a girlfriend and other pertinent info.
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Old 07-21-2009, 07:37 AM
 
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Try to develop the human relationship first, and you give the romantic one an opportunity to blossom. If there's no romance, at least you have added a person to your life that can you enjoy for other reasons.

Here's my favorite way to start that ball rolling:

"Would you like to have a cup of coffee with me after class?"

Regards,
Streamer1212
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Old 07-21-2009, 11:18 AM
 
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Ah, how? What's your definition of subtle?

I hate when the best of plans go wrong! Let's see if we can actually get this to work to your advantage lol!
i was telling him about this place i really like in la that is a spiritual area for people of all religions and said its one of my favorite places and he should really check it out. he then said something like "i dont believe one needs a spiritual place in order to be spiritual". i agree, i just thought it was a cool area and he would want to check it out with me if he was interested

i probably will end up doing the coffee thing later.
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Old 07-21-2009, 11:26 AM
 
Location: SoCal - Sherman Oaks & Woodland Hills
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i was telling him about this place i really like in la that is a spiritual area for people of all religions and said its one of my favorite places and he should really check it out. he then said something like "i dont believe one needs a spiritual place in order to be spiritual". i agree, i just thought it was a cool area and he would want to check it out with me if he was interested

i probably will end up doing the coffee thing later.
You're talking about the Self Realization center near the beach that was founded by Paramahansa Yogananda. They have some of Ghandi's ashes there. Really cool place. It would be the perfect place for a date and you can grab a coffee afterwards at one of the local Starbucks.

Wait a minute!! Weren't you just posting the other day about how difficult it is to find dates/people? But now all of a sudden, out of the blue you have a crush on someone? Hmmmm.
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