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I dated a man who was 15 years older than me once and it worked out fine intellectually, emotionally, etc EXCEPT for the fact that he was hung up about the age difference. He just kept bringing up that I would leave him one day etc etc so I said fine, I'll do it sooner than later. Best connection I ever had with anyone.
So either go through with it or don't but don't let the age difference become your focus, or your relationship.
If you feel strange about it...its just not going to work. Your testosterone will start to drop in a few years and you will not feel like a 25 year old then and she will be just hitting her prime. I think its unfair to her and you know it and that is why you feel off about it. She is not even old enough to drink legally.
Try dating a women instead of a little girl just getting started. Guilt gone and you still get some. Problem solved.
So either go through with it or don't but don't let the age difference become your focus, or your relationship.
Great advise!
When I was 20 and one of my girlfriends in college got involved with a 30 year old, it was a huge big deal for us 20 year olds, we thought then it was the heck of a lot of difference. (Now I think 30 year old men are still boys ) She went through a hell of fight with her own mother who was against it, and in the end they moved to another city and started living together. When she was 27, she had her first child.
I don't think yours is a big age difference. My husband is 16 years older than me and it suits me fine.
I think it would be unusual for them to be in a similar place in life with similar goals, but it's not impossible.
It might also "work" in an unhealthy way, ie., the woman is taken care of like a child almost, and the man is not looking for an equal; or the man is incredibly immature and acts like he's in college still.
I think the age gap closes as you get older though. In your early 20s, a few years makes a big difference.
I think it could definitely work but the question is, how LONG would it work?
As long as you both aren't expecting to get married and buy a house with a white picket fence and have four children, then go ahead and see what happens!
Seriously, instead of wasting time worrying over this and that, just DO it and see where things go... but don't set up a huge list of expectations or else you WILL end up disappointed.
If you over 30, she should at least be able to by booze. Rule of thumb, your age divide by two and add seven= minimum age you should date.
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) She went through a hell of fight with her own mother who was against it, and in the end they moved to another city and started living together. When she was 27, she had her first child. 
