32 yr old male w 20 year old female (marrying, men, younger)

[JR_C]

My dad was 32 when he married his current wife who was 22. They have been happily married for 20 years, now.

[Davachka]

Originally Posted by Oildog

Rule of thumb, your age divide by two and add seven= minimum age you should date.

Never heard that rule, how did they come up with a mathematic equation for proper dating age

My rule is old enough to be your parent....too old to date. Then again with kids having kids at age 11 that rule doesnt work as well...

[kahncss]

When I was 22, I met a guy who was 36. We hit it off and lived together for 3 /12 yrs and then got married and were together another 11 yrs. He was controlling and liked making me his show piece. I should have known when his song to me was Willy Nelson's, Angel Flying too Close to the Ground. He didn't want children and I didn't think I did either. I was a stepmom at 28 and simply adored his grandbaby. He was fine about me having my nieces and nephews over on the weekends. As I got older, I got a little more independent and would voice my opinions which he didn't like. By the time he was 50, he seemed to hit a mid life crisis and felt he could never give me what I truly wanted, which was a baby. I was devastated at first because I never wanted a baby, or so thought.

Looking back now, the best thing he did was let me go. I'm married to my dh who is 3 yrs older than I and we're perfect together. Oh, and we have one very special blessing, a dd. I guess my ex was right, I did want a baby.

I have a friend who's been married over 25 yrs and they are 18 yrs apart and doing fine. It just depends. Only you can decide what's right for you. Just make sure you have the same goals.

[nuala]

Originally Posted by Oildog

Rule of thumb, your age divide by two and add seven= minimum age you should date.

I think we should discard this "rule" already. Doesn't make sense.

Take my hubby, 62, divide by 2 and add 7 = 38.

So you are suggesting 24 years age difference (!). And, show me a 38 year old woman who would be glad to date a 62 year old.

Let's take an 80 year old man. The rule will point him to a 47 year old woman. Good luck hunting!

[crbcrbrgv]

Originally Posted by Augustabuckeye

I think its kind of a large gap. It would be unusual for both partners to be in the same place - Careers, children, etc.

And I think as you age, the difference would not seem as bad...But then would get worse the older you get. You'd be an Older man of 61...While she'd be still in her forties...a Cougar

And you'd just be a dirty old man...

Ha, try lucky!

[sierraAZ]

Originally Posted by LEVOW

what do you think? is it too much of an age difference to work?

Generally it's not a huge difference. It just is right now. Ten years later it'll be nothing, but right now she's too young. That's not to say the relationship is doomed.

Originally Posted by Mathguy

I think it will work until she is in her late 30's and he is 50 and looking\acting aged. Then she will divorce him and start over.

This is a generality but I've seen it happen often where the MUCH older person hits a different life phase and suddenly they don't have so much in common etc. and "grow apart".

This is why I wouldn't date gals <30 when I'm looking.

Oh, c'mon, MG, your own wife was 8 years older than you!

[Hillman]

I was 28 dating a 52 year old woman.My Dad had a fit.

hillman

[thatguy1]

Originally Posted by Hillman

I was 28 dating a 52 year old woman.My Dad had a fit.

hillman

Ah, the GILF's.

[cr1039]

Originally Posted by LEVOW

We have alot of things in common, and yes i dont look 32, i look like 25, shes really mature, and told me, "your only as old as you feel"

Hope she did not spell it that way.

Anyway, I agree with a few other posters.

What about where each of you are in your lives? Education, career, marriage, children, life experiences/travel/past relationships...etc.

She is not even old enough to pick up a bottle of wine for dinner...

[wanneroo]

I think it all depends on who you are and who the other person is.

I can tell you I know of 45 years olds that have the maturity of a 16 year old and I know of 21 year olds that have a very mature outlook and manage responsibilities.

There is something I believe to women looking naturally to older men. When I was in college, can't say women in that age group really jumped all over me. In my late 20's into my 30's I started to notice and experience first hand women that were 18-25 suddenly interested and all over me.

Ultimately I think that you should go with whoever you enjoy being with. As I got older I realized things like age or hair color or bra size didn't really matter much. Mostly I just want a decent, kinky woman with a good taste in enjoying life while being responsible and trustworthy.