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Thanks for your concern sierrAZ but I'm cool. He's actually in the living right now due to NYC housing laws; he has a right to be here - for now. I'll file a report tomorrow (the officer didn't even fill one out) and head down to family/civil court tomorrow to start the eviction process. He said he'd be out tomorrow but I'm still going to go through the legal steps on my end just in case.
seems like you have made the right decision but let me just add, just in case you ever think about changing your mind, that i have been there done that with the boyfriend not wanting to meet my family and I actually ended up marrying him...blinded by love. Anyway...it has turned out to be a pretty sore spot in our relationship bc he never really did change, even though we have been married for 6 years with 3 kids now. My family started to think he was weird bc he didn't want to meet them, and that led to him sensing that they didn't like him when he finally did meet them, which made him never want to see them again, which made the fam think he was even worse, and a vicious cycle was created that it still going on. He is always bringing up how my family doesn't like him, which, I really can't deny...they made their minds up about him in the beginning when he was so reluctant to meet them, and it invariably ends up in an argument. If your family is at all important to you...you just can't have a good relationship with someone who doesn't want anything to do with them. Which is one of the reasons that we are currently getting separated.
JassNYC, I'm so sorry this is happening. But I'm sure you know it's all for the best in the long run. If you are lonely in the relationship at 2 years - it won't be better in 10 years. Frankly, if you are alone, you may as well be .. single and alone. At least then you will have options.
He needs to go. Breaking lamps over a simple discussion like that?? Its not that serious. Next thing you know he will be breaking your JAW. Give him the deuces and move on.
...if he was really into you, he'd be wanting to meet your family, at the very least, soon after you met and would start to meet your friends too.
...he just wants to avoid the risks that might occur should he be introduced.
I completely agree. Not fully investing himself into your world makes it easier for him to play you dirty without guilt or consequences, or bail out on you when you least expect it.
He may also be using you until something "better" comes along.
Even if it's neither of the things I mention above, he sounds like he just has too many problems. Why link yourself to someone like that? It sounds like you'd do well to dump him asap.
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