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LOL. Pretty much. Whenever I go to a club, I'll get men buying me drinks left and right. The first time I went, I thought, oh wow cool, this guy's buying me a drink that's nice of him. Now I realize that these guys are just compensating for their shortfalls. Short guys, ugly guys, old guys, they all want to buy you a drink in some silly hope that you'll sleep with them.
The tall, hot guys that walk up to you with tons of style, and just start talking and flirting, I've noticed that they rarely try to buy me a drink, and I think it's because they realize they're sexy and don't have to compensate. That's when you can have fun and just enjoy the conversation without thinking "this guys just trying to get me drunk".
So don't "buy her a drink", be cool, be hot, have style and swag, and start a conversation. If we like you we'll respond.
And it works. For the women out there that are not users, I think there is an appreciation of men with some boundaries.
Just because you want a guy to try for you does not make you a user.
To try for you? No offense, but BARF!
Well I think that is what I see is a problem with our society and our approach to relationships. It's all about money and stuff when the focus should be on the actual people and who they are. It seems some women are more concerned with getting their free drink rather than getting to know someone decent.
Personally I don't buy random women drinks or dinner or anything else. If they demand a "drink" or some other offering for the "privilege" of getting to know them, to me they are just a bar girl working on a hourly rate. It's a sign of someone that if in a relationship with, their concern will be about money and all that can be provided for them. Not about being in an equatable, loving relationship.
Spending a lot of time down under they have a concept of "shouting" drinks which if you buy someone a drink, regardless of sex, they are obligated to buy one back for you. To me that is fair and equatable. Some lazy hen sitting in a bar waiting on a stream of free drinks and when the free drinks run out so does the conversation, that to me isn't appealing or equatable.
It seems some women are more concerned with getting their free drink rather than getting to know someone decent.
If they demand a "drink" or some other offering for the "privilege" of getting to know them, to me they are just a bar girl working on a hourly rate.
Some lazy hen sitting in a bar waiting on a stream of free drinks and when the free drinks run out so does the conversation, that to me isn't appealing or equatable.
Wow, you are quite the lady's man, aren't you? Implying that women are fat hens and prostitutes because they want to be treated, classy .
Do what works for you Wanneroo. But all I know is I like men to try a little. If that is somehow offensive to you, or makes you "barf" than maybe you need to learn a thing or two about what women like.
The tall, hot guys that walk up to you with tons of style, and just start talking and flirting, I've noticed that they rarely try to buy me a drink, and I think it's because they realize they're sexy and don't have to compensate.
Typical of this type. They are probably saving their money for the women they want...........for more than a 1 night stand. Such guys pick up women for sex but always have "the one" they are saving themselves, and their money for. She has expensive tastes.
Why would they waste their very limited funds, when they don't have to?
Typical of this type. They are probably saving their money for the women they want...........for more than a 1 night stand. Such guys pick up women for sex but always have "the one" they are saving themselves, and their money for. She has expensive tastes.
Why would they waste their very limited funds, when they don't have to?
NotARedneck - Yes exactly. I am actually the opposite. If a guy is kind of shy, or not as good looking, I actually give him a little more leeway. But it is the good looking guys, that are pretty full of themselves, that you have to make work harder. They're so used to women throwing themselves at them, they get bored after a while. Got to keep it interesting.
I know its a game, and its really very silly and stupid if you think about it. But that's dating life .
I didnt realize the word "Bodega" was a racial slur. I thought it was a market. Silly me.
Bodega Bay, CA
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