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Thanks to all of you for putting in your two cents - I honestly appreciate it!
The real burning question for me now is whether or not I should bring it up with him.
He is a close friend, so I really feel like it is worth mentioning. But of course I'm not going to position it as "I think this is a terrible idea" -- but instead I just want to get him thinking about *why* he wants to do this...b/c up to this point he has been running on auto-pilot.
I think that the best of friends are there not only to have fun with, but to keep you in-check w/ an honest, non-glossed over opinion when you need it most. Thoughts??
Thanks to all of you for putting in your two cents - I honestly appreciate it!
The real burning question for me now is whether or not I should bring it up with him.
He is a close friend, so I really feel like it is worth mentioning. But of course I'm not going to position it as "I think this is a terrible idea" -- but instead I just want to get him thinking about *why* he wants to do this...b/c up to this point he has been running on auto-pilot.
I think that the best of friends are there not only to have fun with, but to keep you in-check w/ an honest, non-glossed over opinion when you need it most. Thoughts??
If you're his friend, then you should definitely make your feelings clear. If you thought his girlfriend was all wrong for him, wouldn't you speak up then? This is no different. If you think he's about to make a huge mistake that he may not be able to easily fix, then you should say so. I would want my friends to catch me before I make a mistake.
Yes he is making a major mistake . I would not even buy someone a cell phone I had been dating for 9 months . He needs to rethink his decision and say to her that maybe they should wait till they get married before they even think about buying a house .
You can divorce your wife, but you can't divorce your home loan.
Until she refinances, the mortgage company can hold you responsible for that debt, no matter what your divorce decree says about who owns the house. That is some messy stuff already.
If, for instance, OP's friend ended up dumping this girl and they agreed that she would keep the house and pay for it, she could choose to never make any payments, go into foreclosure, and trash his credit (along with hers) for revenge. Or she could try to make the payments she promised to make, but since she couldn't afford the house on her own income in the first place, she ends up slipping further and further behind, again trashing her credit and his.
Determine whether it'd be a wise decision to advise him against it. If you choose to do so, do so w/ the expectation that he may react adversely towards you, perhaps to the extent that he'll choose to discontinue your friendship, or at least, to put it in the backburner.
He'll have to make his own choices and face the consequences afterwards.
Refer friend to the Vince Vaughn movie. Think it was called "the breakup" or something to that effect.
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