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When ever I start feeling superior or judgemental of emotionally immature people, I have to remember that part of the draw or attraction these younger people have on their side is not only youth but the naivety that goes with it. There's a lot to be said about not knowing the outcome of a situation or a relationship, its an exciting adventure if you've never done it before.
Nothing like meeting a person for the first time when the light in their eyes shines brightest.
Some, but not all of my friends and family who chose to 'live it up' in their late teens and early 20's are now playing catch up.
It's a fun experience, but the weighty consequences can easily overshadow those few thrilling moments. Young people should listen to well meaning experienced people in their lives.
Some, but not all of my friends and family who chose to 'live it up' in their late teens and early 20's are now playing catch up.
It's a fun experience, but the weighty consequences can easily overshadow those few thrilling moments. Young people should listen to well meaning experienced people in their lives.
While I may not necessarily disagree with all of what you said, I feel that it is important to point out that "living it up" and being responsible and "grown-up" are not mutually exclusive things. I have been "living it up" since middle school, and I have no regrets, nor am I playing catch up. I am doing very well for someone my age. I finished my BS in 4 years with honors (and lived it up the entire time), was paid to go to grad school and teach college labs (and I will be finishing my MS the end of this year...once again, while living it up the entire time), and am working full time for an amazing company at the job of my dreams (once again, while living it up the entire time).
The important thing is balancing the "fun" stuff with the "responsibility" stuff. If you can do that, you can do both. While I'm not saying that I shouldn't have listened to my parents or other elders more, I am saying that I have made my own path and am doing very well for myself, even though I had way too much fun through middle school...and high school...and undergrad...and grad. Not all young people need our elders to guide us. There are a lot of people older than me who are far worse off than me, and I can only imagine how my life would've turned out if I'd have taken some of their advice instead of following my heart and my head.
While I may not necessarily disagree with all of what you said, I feel that it is important to point out that "living it up" and being responsible and "grown-up" are not mutually exclusive things. I have been "living it up" since middle school, and I have no regrets, nor am I playing catch up. I am doing very well for someone my age. I finished my BS in 4 years with honors (and lived it up the entire time), was paid to go to grad school and teach college labs (and I will be finishing my MS the end of this year...once again, while living it up the entire time), and am working full time for an amazing company at the job of my dreams (once again, while living it up the entire time).
The important thing is balancing the "fun" stuff with the "responsibility" stuff. If you can do that, you can do both. While I'm not saying that I shouldn't have listened to my parents or other elders more, I am saying that I have made my own path and am doing very well for myself, even though I had way too much fun through middle school...and high school...and undergrad...and grad. Not all young people need our elders to guide us. There are a lot of people older than me who are far worse off than me, and I can only imagine how my life would've turned out if I'd have taken some of their advice instead of following my heart and my head.
I agree. My post wasn't meant to be taken as you can't have fun and be responsible at the same time. That's what I did in college and still continue to do almost 10 years later. There are some who don't want any responsibilities in their early 20s or later, and regret it when their priorities change- these are the ones who should take heed.
In regards to the bolded statement- you are incorrect if you really mean 'Not all', because rarely if ever does someone just arrive at success and not use advice from older, experienced people. Of course you have to consider the source. If my whino Uncle give me advice, I may be less inclined to heed it, being that his track record sucks. That does not mean that nothing he says is valuable, because he might be teaching me a 'don't make the same mistake' lesson. Even if he's not saying it, I can see some of the decisions he's made and note to self to not follow him.
I agree. My post wasn't meant to be taken as you can't have fun and be responsible at the same time. That's what I did in college and still continue to do almost 10 years later. There are some who don't want any responsibilities in their early 20s or later, and regret it when their priorities change- these are the ones who should take heed.
In regards to the bolded statement- you are incorrect if you really mean 'Not all', because rarely if ever does someone just arrive at success and not use advice from older, experienced people. Of course you have to consider the source. If my whino Uncle give me advice, I may be less inclined to heed it, being that his track record sucks. That does not mean that nothing he says is valuable, because he might be teaching me a 'don't make the same mistake' lesson. Even if he's not saying it, I can see some of the decisions he's made and note to self to not follow him.
My "not all" comment was mostly meant in reference to young people who don't have good role models to advise them (like lets say a kid that only has a bunch of whino uncles and parents and such around), b/c not all youngsters are all blessed as I have been to have the parents, family, friends, and mentors that I have. And I too have one of those uncles who is basically one big "don't make the same mistakes as me" lesson lol.
And I absolutely understand and agree with your statement about folks in their 20s choosing not to grow up and perhaps regretting it later in life (actually just got out of a relationship with a guy like that...it's never a good thing when your 25 year old gf is more of a grown up than you and you need her to take care of your lazy 30 year old ass lol). I was just saying that not everyone who "lives it up" as a youngster ends up regretting it lol
My "not all" comment was mostly meant in reference to young people who don't have good role models to advise them (like lets say a kid that only has a bunch of whino uncles and parents and such around), b/c not all youngsters are all blessed as I have been to have the parents, family, friends, and mentors that I have. And I too have one of those uncles who is basically one big "don't make the same mistakes as me" lesson lol.
And I absolutely understand and agree with your statement about folks in their 20s choosing not to grow up and perhaps regretting it later in life (actually just got out of a relationship with a guy like that...it's never a good thing when your 25 year old gf is more of a grown up than you and you need her to take care of your lazy 30 year old ass lol). I was just saying that not everyone who "lives it up" as a youngster ends up regretting it lol
Thanks for not immediately proceeding to tear me a new one for seemingly disagreeing with you (like so many kind folks on this forum lol)
LOL. Nah if everybody agreed with me it'd be no fun LOL
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