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Ok, I'm getting ready to date again, after a long hiatus. Lately I've been thinking about what I'm really looking for in a guy and what I would be willing to settle on.
Would I mind a guy who's a little overweight if he's considerate, thoughtful, smart and has a good job? Or maybe a guy who doesn't have the same values as me, but he's handsome and hard working.
So my question is, what would you be willing to give up. Maybe the girl doesn't have to be a 10 or a 9, maybe she can be an 8 or a 7. Or maybe that guy doesn't have to have all his hair, or have a great sense of humor.
Seriously? You wouldn't be willing to compromise on anything?
I'm not high maintenance, so, no. Then again, what I require is like pulling teeth these days to get.
For example, I'm not "settling" when I date someone who isn't as attractive. It's never been a requirement that they be good looking and super fit. The men I fell in love with were less than average in the looks department.
Overall, I have settled in many areas. So, I tried, in the name of "love". I just don't have the desire to waste any more time on men that can't or won't give me what I want. Better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else.
I'm not high maintenance, so, no. Then again, what I require is like pulling teeth these days to get.
For example, I'm not "settling" when I date someone who isn't as attractive. It's never been a requirement that they be good looking and super fit. The men I fell in love with were less than average in the looks department.
Overall, I have settled in many areas. So, I tried, in the name of "love". I just don't have the desire to waste any more time on men that can't or won't give me what I want. Better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else.
Ok, I see what you're saying now. I agree, no need to compromise on essential qualities.
I've dated guys who weren't that physically attractive either, but I have to admit that I would prefer a guy who was attractive and had everything else I wanted over one that wasn't.
That being said, I would be willing to go lax on the attraction factor if I knew the guy was THEE guy for me. Perfect chemistry, tons in common, understood me, etc. But where is he? Who knows.
I'm not high maintenance, so, no. Then again, what I require is like pulling teeth these days to get.
For example, I'm not "settling" when I date someone who isn't as attractive. It's never been a requirement that they be good looking and super fit. The men I fell in love with were less than average in the looks department.
Overall, I have settled in many areas. So, I tried, in the name of "love". I just don't have the desire to waste any more time on men that can't or won't give me what I want. Better to be happy alone than miserable with someone else.
i have to say, i really understand where you are coming from. i do have things i would settle on, but if someone has a set of things that are super important to them, then so be it. i posted earlier my turn offs and really gave that a lot of thought! i posted it on 2 boards (1 isnt on city data). a poster said my turn offs were obnoxious, and on the other board i got a mix of "i agree with everything you said", "i have things similar", and to the bad, "good luck ending up with a million cats".
while it is always great finding someone you really like and connecting, i am perfectly satisfied being alone and i am pretty secure and happy with who i am. i think people waste others' time if they think to themselves, "maybe if i get to know him, i would be attracted to him" or "okay he/she is a great person, but i will have to put up with xxxx,xxxx, and xxxx.
i think people dont understand that there are those that are okay with being alone figuring they havent met the right person. if people are able to settle on a million different things, good for them. i dont think someone is any better because they are willing to settle more willingly than someone else.
Lol. Hmmmm, that has me written all over it. I think I may change my screen name to that! Thanks
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