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Well my MIL has been w/ us for over 3 months now for a visit. Overall she's ok, but I'm really sick of her being her. She's dependent upon us for everything because she's from overseas.
She hasn't come here in two years for a visit. So I dont deal w/ her all that much I guess. But who wants to live, eat, breathe with a dependent MIL. She can't drive, doesn't speak English and has no personal money while here (she has a pension in her home country).
But now that's she's here, I have a dependent husband and a dependent MIL. I'm sick of it. If I can't get bread for them, then there's no bread. She needed to go to the dentist, if I don't/can't take her, then she won't be going. (And if you remember my husband has this driving anxiety).
Well I'm totally sick of spending every day cleaning up, cooking and doing everything for these people. So I stopped. I don't eat w/ them bc I'm expected to set the table, cook and clean up. So if I don't eat w/ them, they have to do that. But to them I'm being rude, oh well.
And trust me I've tried asking for help. Husband refuses to help and makes excuses and whines.
My husband needed to go to the bank to take out 2 grand to pay her back for her flight ticket to here (and for a couple other things that she purchased for him). He asked me to go and I didn't do it for him. If he needs money from the bank he needs to do it. Well in this case, he's going to give her a check in his aunt's name in NY. Bc she's going to NY first and flying out from there. So now his aunt will have to get the cash out of the bank. Man he manipulates everyone around him.
So, she's leaving Sunday. She will need a ride to the airport. A few weeks ago, she went to FL to visit her MIL. I had to drop her off, walk her to the gate and pick her up when she returned. My husband didn't EVEN COME with me! Because of his driving anxiety/agoraphobia. (He went to the airport a few months ago when she arrived, but he had a major panic attack and hasn't gone to the airport since.).
What should I do? I don't want to take his mom to the airport. I feel like my husband should be doing this. The airport is 6 miles from us. It's a Sunday, he won't be working. He will lay on the couch and watch TV while I take care of his responsibility. I mean it's not like he's sick or has to work. Should I fight w/ him and not do it, should I leave the house early in the morning and disappear for the day and let him figure out how to handle it?
Well my MIL has been w/ us for over 3 months now for a visit. Overall she's ok, but I'm really sick of her being her. She's dependent upon us for everything because she's from overseas.
She hasn't come here in two years for a visit. So I dont deal w/ her all that much I guess. But who wants to live, eat, breathe with a dependent MIL. She can't drive, doesn't speak English and has no personal money while here (she has a pension in her home country).
But now that's she's here, I have a dependent husband and a dependent MIL. I'm sick of it. If I can't get bread for them, then there's no bread. She needed to go to the dentist, if I don't/can't take her, then she won't be going. (And if you remember my husband has this driving anxiety).
Well I'm totally sick of spending every day cleaning up, cooking and doing everything for these people. So I stopped. I don't eat w/ them bc I'm expected to set the table, cook and clean up. So if I don't eat w/ them, they have to do that. But to them I'm being rude, oh well.
And trust me I've tried asking for help. Husband refuses to help and makes excuses and whines.
My husband needed to go to the bank to take out 2 grand to pay her back for her flight ticket to here (and for a couple other things that she purchased for him). He asked me to go and I didn't do it for him. If he needs money from the bank he needs to do it. Well in this case, he's going to give her a check in his aunt's name in NY. Bc she's going to NY first and flying out from there. So now his aunt will have to get the cash out of the bank. Man he manipulates everyone around him.
So, she's leaving Sunday. She will need a ride to the airport. A few weeks ago, she went to FL to visit her MIL. I had to drop her off, walk her to the gate and pick her up when she returned. My husband didn't EVEN COME with me! Because of his driving anxiety/agoraphobia. (He went to the airport a few months ago when she arrived, but he had a major panic attack and hasn't gone to the airport since.).
What should I do? I don't want to take his mom to the airport. I feel like my husband should be doing this. The airport is 6 miles from us. It's a Sunday, he won't be working. He will lay on the couch and watch TV while I take care of his responsibility. I mean it's not like he's sick or has to work. Should I fight w/ him and not do it, should I leave the house early in the morning and disappear for the day and let him figure out how to handle it?
I had a simliar problem when my MIL came to visit but she only stayed a week and a half.There's no way I could've stood for her staying any longer then she did.
I wouldn't fight with your hubby I'd just sit down and plainly explain to him that it's his family and he needs to grow up and act like a man and that it's his job and not yours and to tend to his own family and bank business.
You should be jumpin` up and down that she is going home!!!
Take her!!! Then, tell your husband to"man up!"
BTW...Tell your MIL, that she really needs to learn to speak English here in the U.S.
What should I do? I don't want to take his mom to the airport. I feel like my husband should be doing this. The airport is 6 miles from us. It's a Sunday, he won't be working. He will lay on the couch and watch TV while I take care of his responsibility. I mean it's not like he's sick or has to work. Should I fight w/ him and not do it, should I leave the house early in the morning and disappear for the day and let him figure out how to handle it?
Take her to the airport. Just get her out of the house and your life with as little drama as possible. It's worth the 6-mile drive, trust me.
You should be jumpin` up and down that she is going home!!!
Take her!!! Then, tell your husband to"man up!"
BTW...Tell your MIL, that she really needs to learn to speak English here in the U.S.
yes and i bet that you speak every language of the places you vist...
Take her to the airport and get on with your life.... Hopefully you won't have to deal with this problem again for awhile. Your husband needs to take more action though in matters regarding his side of the family. Good luck.
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Your husband needs to take more action though in matters regarding his side of the family. Good luck.
