Here is a relationship question for you!

[STT Resident]

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This was the OP's one other thread-starter. 10 pages later and she didn't respond once. Just thought it was worth throwing into the mix!

[moonshadow]

Originally Posted by STT Resident

I have to disagree with the majority here. If your husband was up to no good he would have avoided the truth or lied about where he was and what he was doing. He was completely forthright without you even asking and I do think you're over-reacting.

Actually in my experience this kind of situation ^ is simply an indication of an exceptional liar. Being forthright and offering a "plausible" story that is similar but not quite the truth is much more effective for cheaters.

This way he's admitted he was there, he gives an explanation of what went on and then he says "nothing" happened which is supposed to make the whole thing sound more truthful effectively hiding what really went on AND has the added benefit of being able to claim that your partner is paranoid and not a good person if they continue to question it.

To me if he was aware that he was going to accept that kind of "payment" for the job, if his wife meant anything to him he'd have told her about it BEFORE he committed to it. He didn't tell her because he knew she wouldn't like it. He didn't answer the phone because he didn't want to her to know til after and now for whatever reason he's still trying to cover his tracks by pretending to be "up front" about it.

The mark of a really good liar is to keep things very close to the truth.

[20yrsinBranson]

Originally Posted by nOtvERyQuIet

Well my husband works in a bar/resturant managing a kitchen. He also cleans carpets on the side. So yesterday he took my son to the doctor which afterwards I tried to call him to see how the appt went. No Answer No Call Returned (this was at about 12:45). On my way home from work he called me (5:30) to say he was just finishing a carpet job and was on his way home. I knew he had a job at 1:00 but it was just one room so you can imagine my surprise when at 5:30 he was just finishing up. When I commented on the time he said "Oh, I got a phone call from a fellow co-worker (female) and she need a room cleaned." I simply said oh well good. Then he proceeded to tell me she was unable to pay him so she gave him a back massage!!! Even though she is a non-practicing massage therapist i was very upset and still am. I found this to be very sneeky (in that he, I now found out, knew about this payment arrangement before ever getting to her home) and unacceptable. Had he returned my call from earlier and discussed this it would have been easier to accept (maybe) I also found out her boyfriend wasn't there. So I am left to wonder?? What would you do???

He told you the truth and did not try to hide or lie about it. I don't know what his motivation is for doing this.

20yrsinBranson

[Huckleberry3911948]

you think that is bad you cant imagine what is offered to landlords and trademen for payment.

[star*light]

Well stated Moonshadow!